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writes:3 April 2010: I feel like such a slut. I am only 16, 17 in 2 weeks and I have slept with 14 boys over 2 years I think. I dont know why I do, I just watnt to feel wanted. I get used and it hurts me like mad and i get really really down because I hate myself no boy wants me and its such a horrible feeling. I regret everything but I want to forget about my horrible past. Please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Buy yourself a vibrator and use that instead of sex and then join some clubs or groups in things that interest you e.g a book club. Spend your time stimulating your mind instead of your body and life will change for you.
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reader, lovelovejuice  +, writes (4 April 2010):
That's a new guy every 52 days... before the age of 17. Keep it up and you'll be at 42 by your 21st birthday. Not exactly a wholesome outlook. You should probably try to mentally remove yourself from the situation in order to accurately evaluate what's going on and why. Nip it in the bud (no pun intended) because it's not too late to change your ways; and more importantly, save your self-image, self-esteem, and self-worth. I can also guarantee you that drugs and alcohol will make your situation a lot worse. If you don't stop now, you're going to hurt yourself along with any unlucky [good] guys who fall in love with you along the way.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (3 April 2010):
Miss you are not a s--- by any means and never will be you are merely pushing out your boundaries and exploring what this part of life is all about. It is perfectly normal I am afraid.
You must take care and if you continue like this the time may come to see your GP and ask for some one to one counselling. I guess you know that I know there is something major you have not told us - you may know what it is, there again you may not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): It might be hard for you, but if you really want to stop you will. First start hanging out with guys or talking to them for a while, it would probably be easier to do this with guys who dont really know you then you can have a fair chance at letting them see the real you. Dont start getting intimate until you know that he's not using you and that you BOTH really like eachother or maybe even love. You have to be patient though, you will find a great guy but it might take time. And when you guys are sure that you want to be together make sure that you have an understanding about your relationship.
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reader, pipsta  +, writes (3 April 2010):
Hi there, unfortunately there is nothing we can do about the past. being the age you are, sexuality is very confusing and hard to control. My current long-term g/f has had an extensive past in terms of "relationships", and regrets what she has done in the past, and only did what she did to feel wanted. as she neared 18, she realised she was only being used for sex by guys, so she stopped jumping into bed with anyone she could, and changed to establising a non-sexual, more emotional relationship with men, and has only slept with 1 man since (me). at your age, boys will see you in a different way (I know this coz I was 16 once) and hopefully you can meet a nice young man who is mature enough to overlook your past and see you for the obviously lovely young woman you are. Hang in there!
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