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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I don't like the way my boyfriend has been treating me lately. Like today , we were suppose to go together and study at the library when he realize that he had lost 100 bucks, he became super sad looking for it all over his dorm and ended up wanting to sleep instead of studying. I told him I understand and I would stay at his place and study instead because I had an exam online today that was due. Midway through studying, his roommate came back and started talking on the phone and opening the tv really loud. I couldn't concentrate on my studies so I woke my bf woke to tell him that I want to study somewhere else. He got so upset at me and kept insisting I just stay with him but the next minute he got mad and told me never mind just get out then and go study. I was trying to comfort him at first trying to make him understand but I got upset when he said that, I just left. This wasn't the first time he has been self centered recently and nowadays he think he can treat me like that because I always end up answering his text message or calls. He knows how to make me become the bad person in every situation. And I don't know to do because talking out with him never help so I was starting to think maybe I shouldn't talk to him at all until he realize that he should give me a sincere apology or is that not the right way.
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reader, curiousandconfused +, writes (11 September 2011):
Would you say that your boyfriend is self-centered, selfish, manipulative and makes you feel bad about yourself?I had an ex who has all these traits - esp. the one you wrote - "he knows how to make me the bad person in every situation." He had his own idea of reality and he was never in the wrong. He managed to twist things around so badly that I was always the one crying and apologizing to him. This should have been a huge red flag to me, but I stayed in the relationship and he took 4 years away from me. Or rather, I let him take 4 years away from me.Sometimes in relationships there's miscommunications and things can be talked out. You can teach someone to open up and be more empathetic towards you. But if his defining characteristics are selfishness, self-centeredness and refusal to acknowledge any of his own faults by turning things around on you, I would advise you to dump the bastard. Don't waste your time on someone who will always love himself first.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Always be up front and open with how you are feeling, in regards to how he is treating you. Don't just assume he will guess that you don't wish to be treated a certain way, tell him. If you don't like how he is behaving, walk away. But then don't go running back to him, because you're scared he won't follow. If he wants to be with you, he'll come to you; and show you the respect that you deserve. Be strong now.
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