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26-29,
*ithe4ngel
writes: I have this casual snuggle buddy thing going on, but I think I'm taking advantage of him? something seems unbalanced in my mind. Anyways we've been friends for about three months and oddly enough we started out being cuddle buddies. which is odd for both of us seeing as he never actively looks for cuddles and I tend to avoid any type of affection. He texts lots and has introduced me to some of my friends(they're pretty funny). We talk a lot pretty much the way highschool girls text each other. I think we might benfit more as just friends.Is there a good way to stop cuddling and still be buddies? he is very consistent and passive which is kinda confusing, but it also makes him pretty much the nicest dude ive ever met.He always lets me choose everything and i dunno why.He never asks for things and I feel bad for always saying hey lets do this.Mostly I'm writing this because we have sleepovers nothing risque just sleep and lots of computer games.He noticed I have nightmares quite often and I just want him to forget about it. How do i explain its not his businesshe gets soo..worried and its embarrassing enough as it is.Hes started texting me a lot more before I go to sleep..and its not that it annoys me its just I dont need comfort or I m just a bit of a porcupine about it.He also noticed my family especially my step mother is quite mean... and are all people this worried? my other friends never care about family or junk and never talk about my nightmares if they notice at all.. people always get wound up about age he is 19 im 17 we are both in college and working.I doubt it matters but maybe its an age thing? (so how do I tell him nightmares arent a biggie and get him to believe it?How do i let him pick things when he just defers to me? finally does he just care more about the awkward stuff that i brush of because of the snuggly part of our friendship?{or is he just nosey}any other advice you could give)
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reader, Crazysecret  +, writes (2 June 2015):
 The only way to let him know is to ask him what he expects out of this relationship. He might very well like you . By being his cuddle buddy he might feel as though he has a shot but based on how you describe his personality he could be waiting for you to make the first move.
You might hurt him by suggesting you cease to be snuggle buddies but if you don't want to lead him on you need to make your intentions clear. it's not fair to him
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