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writes: my boyfriend and i just broke up because we've been dealing with trust issues; dealing with my past. there are some things i am not ready to tell him... he is giving me a chance to prove to him that he can trust me.. but only as friends.. what are some ways to start building back that lost trust?
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reader, zosey +, writes (22 August 2006):
 hey, trust is a hard thing to gain once it is lost but that dosnt mean he wont trust u agen, u need to talk to him and maby discuss alittle about what u arnt telling him so he understands y u arnt ready, he probably feels that ur keeping things from him and that u dont trust him enough to tell him even thought this may not be the case, things will turn out right and hopefully u can get on with things and maby be ready to tell him ur deep secrets. remember u dont have to tell him and that he should respect ur wishes of not telling him, take care. hope this helped. zoe
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 Hi there,
I hope i can help abit. What i can understand is that u werent really open enough for him to understand you and hence establish a trust since he obviously feels he doesnt know you or rather much about you. I can understand u not wanting to reveal everything that has happened to you in the past until u trust what u feel for him and him for you but u have to realise that if u clammer up too much your partner isnt going to be able to know who u are or what exactly has put in in such a way.
Also, even if u dont want to open up to him yet you have to show him that what happened to you in the past will have little effect on your present relationships that is if u know it wont. Explain to him why u are finding it difficult to open up to him and perhaps he will be more understanding becos. what he is saying now is that he is trying to establish a friendship and build on the trust before carrying on further.
Take things easy and try to trust someone. Even if what u went through is hard it is in the past now and u need to deal with it since it is affecting your future relationships. Having a friend to talk to is good so u dont have to be alone.Take your time and when u are ready try and let him in and give him a chance.
Take care dearie, goodluck.
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