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writes:hi, i need your help. im at uni and i think i want to break up with my boyfriend on a year..my life has changed and he doesnt seem to accept that. how do i do it and how can i be sure im making the right decision? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 You can never be 100% sure when you make any decision that will affect your life to such a huge extent but you do need to stand by that decision once you've made it. Even if you break up with him and then decide you've made a terrible mistake it would be criminal to mess with his mind and get back with him. Just make sure you're as sure as you can possibly be before you make the decision. Breaking up is hard but it's important to do it properly. No guy has ever broken up with me face to face. I've had the instant messenger break up, the email break up and the phone break up and quite frankly all of them suck because you never get a proper chance to get closure or say goodbye. I suggest doing it in a private place where he or you won't be embarassed if you get emotional, say it in as straightforward a way as possible and don't back down no matter what. I'm constantly reading posts on this site about girls whose boyfriends cry and they back down from what they were planning to do. This doesn't help anyone because the girl resents the guy for being like that and the guy knows his relationship is on borrowed time so my advice is be direct and stick to your guns if this is definitely what you want to do.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I don't think any of us can ever be sure we're making the right decision anytime in our lives, we just have to follow what we think is the right choice and live with that. If you're doubting whether you want to be with someone, I'd say there's some serious reasons why not so there must be something very wrong, so maybe it is the right decision.
You say he hasn't accepted your new life, are you wanting to start to new life without him? It's totally underdstandable, people grow apart and it's hard to stay together when you're lives are changing all the time.
Maybe spend some time apart and see how you feel. If he will take you back, tell him you need some time to work it out
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