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writes:3 weeks ago my jealous boyfriend and I had a fight, I was in college and I just finished classes so I decided to go home, but I ran into a female friend of mine and her male friend and we started talking, I texted my boyfriend this because I had already said goodbye to him in person, he freaked out, he left his classroom and went to the place I was, from a distance he demanded me to get close to him . I felt awful, he was making the kind of signals someone makes when they are scolding a dog.I didn't walk to him, I was embarrassed about this, my bf was mad and he got close to us, didn't say hi or anything and sat next to me, my friend and her friend were obviously uncomfortable and awkwardly said goodbye to me and left. We had a lot of fights about this, we broke up and got back together 2 times since then.I have several questions, do you think I should have approached him when he called me? Can I trust him not to so this again? Should I break up with him for real? and if that's the case, how can I break up if I still have some love left for him?Im 20 and he is 22, we have been together 2 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2013): Thank you for everything.
I do not deserve to be treated like this and I wont stand it anymore. After reading most of your answers I decided to break up with him, I did it yesterday, I still care about him, but this relationship was not healthy at all. I really appreciate your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2013): You're on a path to destruction if you continue with him. This is how abuse starts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2013): "how can I break up if I still have some love left for him?"
By having some respect for yourself.
Agree completely with Aunty Babbit, read and re-read her advice again and again, you would be well-served to take it to heart.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (24 August 2013):
 If any man treated my daughter like your boyfriend has been treating you I swear I would do him some serious harm.
Just who does he think he is? You are not a naughty child or a bad dog! You are a lovely young woman who should be being treated like something precious. No you shouldn't have approached him when he called you. No you can't trust him not to do it again.
This man is a controlling bully and I can guarantee you that his treatment of you will continue to worsen if you continue in this relationship.
If it isn't already, then it won't be long before your self esteem is so low that you will believe that you deserve this treatment and it's your fault!
It isn't, your boyfriends actions are abhorrent, they are abusive and demeaning.
I can't help feeling your love is misplaced. Please love yourself enough to move on. Do not be tempted back with apologies and promises to change.
Be strong, my thoughts are with you x
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (24 August 2013):
 You guys have been in the relationship for 2 years and off late its running into rough weather, you see its natural for a relationship to have fights and embarrassing moments and the fact that you tend to call it off and still come back to square1 merely signifies the love hasn't died down, what you guys need to do is sit down and have a conversation, see where it goes but do talk before you decide to call it off,
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