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writes:hi, i was married to the love of my life. he left about 7 months ago, and i am still in love with him. he is living with my EX BEST FRIEND, they have been together since sept.20... how can i break them up, so i can get him back???
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): Do you really want to let someone drive you to stoop so low? What would make you ANY different to thetwo people who broke your heart then?
Would it make you feel any better knowing that you were able to become the very thing that broke you up in the first place?
If they love each other, then let them have that. Gomout and have fun, there are other fish out there.
If you have any love for this man, then let him go. For your sake as much as his. As long as you hold onto to a love that is dead, the fater and more rotten it will get. And eventually you might find it warps you into something only vaguely human.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (15 January 2010):
 You can't, and you shouldn't! They betrayed you! Why on earth would you want to go back to someone that treated you so cruely???
They deserve eachother and you should move on to someone you can trust and who loves you!
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reader, diebler33 +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Well, i've never been married but i do know that if any1 deserves to get bitched at its ur ex-best friend,you as the better person should warn her the type of guy he is and walk away,in life what goes around comes back around he'll come back prommise!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): Are you nuts.........He left you. Where is your pride? Your ex best friend can have him. He will walk out on her eventually too. If you still want him when that happens, and he comes to you, by all means, grab him. But like caringguy said, You will end up coming off as desperate if you demean yourself enough to attempt, yes attempt, to break them up. You may have lost a boyfriend, but the self respect this situation can give you is worth it for now. Don't do anything rash without really considering these important answers to your question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): Why? I think you should really get this idea of "getting him" back out of your head, now. All it would do is -tell him and the rest of your friends, how horridly low you will stoop in life-just to get your needs met. Your posting smacks of revenge and that is your issue, not theirs. If he's with another female, then understand this is not a competition..so don't treat him like he's the prize! He's with her for a reason-he cares for her a lot. You and your ex husband broke up for a reason and he moved on. Now, you need to move on too. If by chance, their relationship does not work out, in time, and he's free to be with you again...then go for it. But don't conspire and think up ways to break them up? That's so unclassy, and quite immature for a woman your age. And because you wrote in for advice..I have the feeling you needed some assurance that this was a wrong thing to do. At least I hope that is the reason. Move on, heal and get healthy. Go find someone else and let them have their relationship. Take Care and be happy
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2010):
You can't. Sorry to say it, but you can't. You'll come across as desperate and like Glenn Close from Fatal Attraction. I don't mean that offensively, because I know you love this guy. But he left you, and it doesn't' seem like he's coming back. If you try to split them up, it will be you who looks back, who is laughed at and you who ends up really hurt. I'm afraid he's moved on, and you need to as well, or you really will end up hurt.
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