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writes:hello everyone i started college a couple of weeks ago and met some new friends who are guys. we went on a trip with college and during the trip my friends introduced me to one of their friends from their school and i thought she was cute. the other day we met again and she forgot my name but instead of asking for it she looked at my student card which was around my neck which i though was weired. my friends told me and she admitted she was a jehovahs witness which i thought was cool but she doesn't really give the impression that she is a religious person. i really like her and my feelings for her have grown since i first met her. what i want to know is how do i ask her out? or how do i become good friends with her? (so then i can go out with her later in the future if she feels that way about me) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Don't become friends with her first. Tell her from the beginning that you have romantic feelings towards her. You could even tell her that you do like her in "that way" but you're prepared to take it slow, or something like that.
What you DO NOT want to do is spend a bunch of time getting to know her while she still doesn't think you feel romantic attraction for her, and then tell her you feel that way later on. That might be perfectly sensible to you but most girls don't work that way. They put you in one category or the other (friend or lover) when they first meet you and it's pretty hard to change it later. By that time you will be in the Friend Zone and there's almost never a way out of it.
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