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*julia*
writes:Hi, I have this guy friend that I want to get closer to. But I don't want to seem obsessive or annoying. I just want to make him one of my really good friends. Any advice on how I can get closer to him without being annoying and obsessive!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, bitter woman +, writes (7 October 2010):
Hi, find out what kind of things he likes..for example sports,music,ect.. the more you have in common the more you have to talk about,the closer you get. Even if you don't share any common interests now... you may end up liking something he does once you know a little about it. Hope this helps you out, good luck.
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reader, bitter woman +, writes (7 October 2010):
Hi, see what type of things hes interested in,like sports music,ect.. Its so easy to talk to people when you share the same interests. The more you have in common the more you have to talk about the closer you get. Even if dont share any common interests now ...there may be something he likes that you might enjoy once you know a little about it!! That should work,hope it does!!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Hi there. One good way is to get to know him better, by chatting to him whenever the time is right - and there's no-one around who could listen.
In between classes and when you are all going in different directions or to your lockers etc. would be a perfect opportunity. And especially, when he's on his own.
Talk the way you usually do, say Hi and how's your day been - the usual thing. Then if he seems interested in keeping on with the conversation, go onto perhaps suggesting going to see a movie you both like, together. Then take it from there.
In any case, the idea is to keep it light and cheerful. Don't come on too serious or try too hard to impress him. Even though you are friends you said, how you feel towards him now, is starting to change. So all the more need, for keeping it fairly light and don't whatever you do, ask him any personal questions like, if he has a girlfriend. That would be too obvious. Don't go there at all.
Then if he says yes, to seeing a movie together, take it from there and just see how it goes.
Don't try and rush things. Everything in good time.
Hope this is helpful to you. Take care and best wishes.
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