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female
age
36-40,
*utchbltz
writes:Hi...So I got married to such a great guy a year and a half ago when I was 19. He's so sweet and supportive and I adore him and we're so happy together! Before I started going out with my husband (2 1/2 years ago) I had a big crush on his best friend (who I knew a year before I met my hubby), and I believe it may have been mutual. While we were dating, I decided that his best friend really wasn't going to be an issue, and so we ended up getting married. The problem is now that his best friend hangs out at our house a lot and it keeps making it harder and harder for me not to like him and he complements me and says I'm hot and stuff like that. The other night afer his buddy left, my husband asked me if I still liked him better than his friend! Of course I said I did but that kinda proves its not just me imagining this all!So, leaving my husband is totally NOT an option, but I need to know how to feel totally neutral about a guy that from the day I met I've had a crush on. I don't want anything to hurt my marrige!Oh. This dude was the best man at our wedding even!
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reader, ralphy +, writes (30 January 2008):
I had this problem and in a way still do - luckly I am engaged not married but here is what my mom said tp me...Every women and man is going to meet someone who they feel drawn to - you may know very little about the person. This is not a feeling that means anything is wrong with your relationship or that the other person you are drawn to is your real match.What you need to do is remind yourself why you are with your guy and why you are not with the other and if you don't know why not then think about all that time you knew the other guy prior to your guy - what was he doing then that made it so you weren't together.Also it may be all the exposure to the other guy - simply ask your guy if his friend could be around less often so you two have more time alone to remind yourself why you married this one not that one.
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