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writes:I want to know what about me I need to fix to be beautiful. People tell me I'm funny and smart, but beautiful is a word I've never heard except from family. I am tired of always being alone and yes, I know I am only 19 and I have my whole life ahead of me but it's still sad that I am always alone. The few guys I have dated have all said the same to me... Youre ugly stupid fat worthless. I have told my friends that they should not put up with it when they have been told the same so i have ended these relationships with my x's . I'm not really that interested in being sexy or georgeous or even pretty. but look okay enough for someone to actually want to be with me and when we are together them to not be ashamed of me. all of the others have been. anyway...please some help. if anyother questions about me to help me let me know Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): well, if you are fat, try to help yourself. do excercise, maybe go for a 30 minute walk each day. shower once a day, condition and shampoo your hair. clean your face twice a day and brush your teeth after every meal if possible. try to be as clean as you can, as guys like personal hygeine. and girl, dont look down on yourself! you are beautiful on the inside, and thats really all that matters (though being clean is good too ;D)
hope my answer didn't contridict itself, and hope it answers yours too :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Oh, my. I feel the exact same way you do. Whenever I ask my friends what to do they tell me to believe in myself and that I am not what I think I am. The best advice I can give is to do things for yourself that will make you feel as good as you want to feel. Take me for example, I've always hated the way I look and so I decided to undergo plastic surgery. I'm not telling you to the same or saying that the only way to become "beautiful" is to do something as superficial as undergoing plastic surgery like my friends put it, but you have to do things that will improve yourself in your eyes and that's all that matters. Once you have achieved what you want then it'll be good in your eyes and other people's opinions will no longer matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni thank all of you so much. you have all helped me. ur the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): Us women, all have issues, the thing is you have to be believe you are beautiful, until you do, you will never believe anyone who tells you that you are.
Dumping the men that are saying horrible things to you shows that you are a strong woman. What they say isn't try anyway, why would they have asked you out in the first place if they thought any of that true.
When you fix your hair, make up and get dressed, do it for you, whatever makes you feel good, if you feel good you will look good.
Remember there is nothing more beautiful than a smile, it can light up a room.
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reader, SavvySavannah456 +, writes (17 February 2010):
 (Everything the person below is true...but here's a little more if you want to take some action)
Everyone has their own beauty. No matter who they are. Sometimes with some people they might bury it in makeup that looks wrong...or not treat their body the way it should be treated.
My advice is to experiment with a bunch of different things, and maybe go to a makeup artist that has had experience and can show you what would look good on you. Everyone is different.
Some things to experiment with:
Lotion/Moisturizer.
Foundation
Eyeshadown/Eyeliner/Mascara
Shampoos/Conditioner
Also not many people are attracted to people who have a messy wardrobe. If some clothes don't fit you, or if they look gorgeous on the hanger but not personally on you, don't wear them. Experiment with different colors that maybe bring out your eyes/hair/skin tone. (brunnette-Yellow/Red) (Blonde-Green/Pink/Blue). It's different for everyone. Also figure if you like your hair Straight or Curly. And theres Shampoos that can volumize it or weigh it down more.
the options are basically limitless.
Grab a friend and make a mall trip :) He/She can be your judge of 'Buy or not to buy', if it looks good on you.
But don't forget, EVERYONE has their own beauty. And those guys are probably just A-Holes, like 'FierceBadRabbit' said: 'They wouldn't be with you in the first place'.
Never lose confidence in yourself.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (16 February 2010):
You simply haven't met the right guy... there are people out there that will see your beauty, fall in love with you and tell you all about it! You need to see if you're falling for the same type of guys over and over (we all have a pattern, find yours and get free from it...).
You may only need a change of attitude and appreciation- and not a make over!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): Beautiful is different from sexy and gorgeous. Beautiful (at least to me) is when you see a persons true beauty. That is probably why you've only heard it from your family so far. Telling someone they are beautiful is one of the greatest compliments to give. Anyone can be sexy, all that requires is a certain way of moving or dressing or acting. Beautiful is more in the way you look at people, treat people, make them feel about you, and the shine that comes from you, the light you spread into a room when you enter it. True beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, and a guy who truly cares for you will look into your eyes and tell you in a soft voice that you are beautiful. A guy who slaps you on the ass and calls you hot stuff doesn't have to care about you.
I hope you see that difference. There's not much you can "change" to be beautiful, what you have to do is let people see you for who you are, be open and honest, true to yourself and enjoy life. I will congratulate you for leaving those guys who called you bad names, you are absolutely right to follow your own advice with them. I bet you there are plenty of men out there who would be honored to call you theirs. You might have to be alone for a while, I can't say they are around the corner, but you never know. Ultimately, what you are looking for is love, like the rest of us, and we can all have problems finding it, no matter age, looks, how we grade ourselves on a scale 1-10 or how funny and smart we are. Each and everyone search for love, and even people who think of themselves as God's gift to earth find themselves seeking love and someone to hold hands with who truly loves them.
So don't bring yourself down and blame your missing love-life on your looks.
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