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writes: My parents and I don't get along very well. Ever since a really bad incident a little over a year ago, they don't trust me with anything. I'm still allowed to do stuff, but you know, they still have that dissappointed tone. I'm a Christian, and I really try to run hard after Christ. But sometimes I fail. Everyone makes mistakes, right? But when I slip up, I get the "That wasn't a Christian thing to do." or something like that. It's like rubbing that in my face. This summer i'm going on a missions trip to NYC, and they almost didn't let me go, because they think the main reason I want to go, is to socialize.It just makes me so mad, theres nothing I want more, than their approval. I'm not a bad kid. I just want them to know that too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): you need to talk to your parents show them your mature your parents seem to be quite religious you need to show them you feel strongly for your religion but still want to have fun.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Parents ALWAYS want to control their kids, although most manage to back off and allow the kids to grow up into reasonably balanced people. It's not a Christain thing, it's just a parent thing. They happen to be particularly religious people, so it revolves around that.
Find your own way. I don't believe that Christianity is about controlling or repressing anyone. There are clear general principles that you obviously need to follow if you are striving to follow a Christian way of life, but equally there are restrictive rules and regulations that, in my view, have absolutely nothing to do with real Christianity and are nothing but misinterpretation and misunderstandings - or a deliberate attempt to control the masses that in reality has nothing to do with God or Jesus.
Respect your parents, sure. They've been around a lot longer than you have, and they have a lot more experience. Listen to them. Ask them what they think - and they will appreciate being asked more than anything else you could do. If you disagree, you don't necessarily have to tell them you disagree, but it's always worth knowing what they think and considering their viewpoint. That's what parents are for. You know that you can be a daughter they ought to be proud of, and you know what's right and what's wrong. If they don't always see it your way, well that's natural. You don't always have to tell them everything either.
Remember, as Annalisa so rightly says, Jesus was a top party man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, to everyone(:
My parents don't really shove religion down my throat or anything.
They actually go to a different church than I do, I chose my own.
But they do use what I love the most, (not nessesarily my religion, I don't like that word too much. But more my God), against me. Seriously, who grounds their children from church? Mine. Because I love it there! I go way more for the worship, than my friends. But they don't see that. I just want them to see the good things that have come from me being a Christian.
I have a promise ring, which was my own choice.
I'm not having sex, doing drugs, or smoking anything.
I think i'm a relatively good kid,
in fact I know it.
i guesss, all i can do is be happy with my life. after all, i'm the one living it, not my parents.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (4 July 2008):
 ah the over powering religious parent nut jobs."That wasn't a Christian thing to do."you want to take a look over this board with reguards to things being waved about in the name of religion.In the position you're in, and i can already see it like a bad movie, that intime your folks will probably drive you away from religion on their own, by being too strict, over powering and the power of christ compeles you.Why do you need their approval?if you're trying to do the right thing and be a good person then thats all that matters.In fcta who cares if you're religious, doing the right thing and being a good person is something everyone should strive for.It sounds to be like your folks have been toking on the bible a little too much.Yes you fail. Big Whoop.Are you the daughter of "God"? no. are you related to Jesus by blood?... no. Thats because you're merely a mortal and as such you are not devine. you are human. and as such are allowed to screw up.and i can't beleive i'm gonna say this as i must be getting semential in my old age.whats more important, pleasing your parents?or pleasing your god?
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reader, dangerouslove.  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 You are only a teenager. Teenagers want to explore and have fun, and believe or not, we're hungry for friends and we love to socialize. I think you should tell your parents how you feel. Let them know you respect your religion and love being a Christian. But you want some freedom too. Nobody is perfect. We're all sinners, and yes, even Christians. How are you ever going to live your life, if everytime you do something wrong, your religion gets thrown back in your face? Part of life is making mistakes -and learning from them, I think you should explain this to your parents too.It sounds to me like you are a very trustworthy girl. Not somebody who's running around at all different hours of the night, sleeping with boys and constantly partying, Am I right? Maybe while talking to your parents, you can compare yourself to a teen who is like that. Maybe, they'll grasp a little bit more of the concept.Just talk to your parents, be open and honest, but the least disrespectful. What's the worst that can happen?I don't really have any other advice. Hopefully, if you do decide to have a talk with them. They'll understand a little bit more.I wish you the best of luck... keep in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionahh, i guess i'm an idiot haha.
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