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writes:How can I ask my best friend (We are both guys and know that each other is gay)(I also have had a crush on him for years) to prom? He asked me to a homecoming last year but had to cancel because of family issues. He use to go to my school but now he is going to another school. Should I ask him as a friend or as a date? If as a friend should i still buy his ticket or should he buy it? The more direction you can give me for this the better, I am horrible with the do's and don't's of dances and asking people to them. Also should I go by myself if he doesn't go?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 April 2012):
 You are thinking way to much in to this, think back to when he asked you to his home coming, how did he do it? I think you should just ring him and tell him your prom is coming up does he want to come along with you. As far as the ticket is concerned just see what he has to say in regards to it, if he offers to pay for it then let him. If he can't go then yes I think you should go alone, at the end of the day its your prom and am sure you can have fun even if he can't go.
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reader, audi_alteram_partem  +, writes (16 April 2012):
Go for it!
First of all, try to remember that the two of you are best friends, after all. So no matter what happens, and even if he turns you down, it will never be as awkward with him as it would be with someone you know less.
But actually, the chances that he would turn you down are pretty low, considering he already asked you to homecoming last year! ;)
That said, if you're really unsure of whether he's only interested in friendship or not, you can ask him out without specifying if it's as a friend or a date, and then just let the evening play out and see if there's something more there? That's what I would do anyways, but that being said I don't know if a) that's actually good advice and b) it's something you can really leave unclear, considering whatever social standards there are for prom over in the U.S. (though I would say that, even as a friend, it would be appropriate to buy his ticket for him)
Either way, even if you miss the opportunity on prom night, I think you should tell him how you feel sooner or later, there might be something there on his side as well :)
Oh, and if he can't come for prom, you should still go on your own, definitely! You can still have a really great time with your friends, and I think you'll regret it if you don't.
Best of luck!
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