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writes:Well this is it. I had to make a call to my mom from my boyfriends phone, my phone is in for repairs, right, so well i was going down the list to find my mom's number i came across a contact called 'sweetheart' allow with his ex-wife details. I was rather hurt by this and asked him why he still had her contact details under sweetheart. He said that it has no reason he tried changing it back yet when his phone crashed and he rebot it everything went back to how it was, since the PC's last updated memory. That is understandable, to a point. I has been awhile now yet it still hurts me deeply. What can i do to forget all about his ex-wife, he keeps saying he has moved on. But still has wedding photos and emails she sent him. I can understand one cant always forget their first love so easily. I just dont want to be so jealous and hurt, by what she done to him. I feel really sorry for him and it hurts me a lot that she just left such a good person. Without arguing with him, how can i ask him to let go of her, or ask him who and what i really am to him.
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reader, Answerthis +, writes (14 April 2009):
In that case, I really doubt that you have any reason to worry. Obviously he still sees the two of you together in the future, and the other lady is out of the picture.
Happy for you sweety... ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx so much! I cant really just straight out ask him where i stand, something i just have not learnt to well.... Yet last night i asked him about the whole holiday thing, he said he was in any plaining on taking we with to new zealand next year for 6 months... Maybe i'm just a little worried more on the lines of feelings then what it is.... His ex stays over seas somewhere so they cant really get together or talk, she contacted him once last year although he said he never replied.. Thanx :)
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reader, Answerthis +, writes (8 April 2009):
Why would you think he hasn't moved on? If he doesn't still contact his ex, they don't meet to catch up or anything to the like, then he probably has,specially since it sounds like she really hurt him.It seems more like A) Your wondering whether he has serious feelings for you, and B) that the remnants of his past love is bothering you.On A): An easy way of subtly determining if someone sees you as a serious consideration for the long term is to ask in passing about something inconsequential at a future date. Example: "Maybe we should save up for a holiday together next year?", and then judge the reaction. Alternatively you can always just straight up ask where you stand.On B): Marriage is a serious thing, and of course he will still have the aftermath lying around. Rather concentrate on what you have together, and as your relationship grows it will gradually build it's own memories, and all that goes with that, eg: photo's etc... and eventually replace the old. You can't change the past, only the future. Unless these "things" still make a regular appearance a year or two later, I wouldn't be bothered.Hope it helps, and good luck...
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