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writes: How do I ask a girl out who probably doesn't even like me because of how I look but doesn't know how I am in the inside? How can I ask her in a way where it won't hurt as much if she rejects me? Why do most girls now a days look for what's on the outside and not the inside like they use to before? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2010):
Don't go in there assuming she will just reject you. Women can smell under-confidence, and they don't really like it. She might find it hurtful if you ask her in a soft way so's not to get hurt. You've got to go in there believing she will say yes. Show her you're worth her time and you're confident enough to put your heart on the line. She might say yes, she might not. You need to believe she will say yes.
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reader, bigb776 +, writes (19 October 2010):
Mate the issue is women and men (the immature ones, not everyone) will look for features that arouse them.
Mature individuals would rather look for someone they'd click with.
If you think she doesn't like you then don't ask...but I mean well you'd never know it' couldn't hurt to ask. But if you get rejected look at it like this; she was shallow enough to judge you based on looks alone and not even give you a chance, would she truly have been worth it in the long run if she's that selfish and immature?
If she rejects you keep looking mate, you often find love in the least likely of places at the least likely of times. Look for older women if your concerned about maturity. I'm only 14 but I really do prefer girls who are about 16, they seem to be alot more fun to talk to and we get along much better than girls who are 12, 13, and 14.
Don't get depressed. Be happy, we almost always find someone sooner or later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): F*** women who only go after looks. If this woman is like that, my friend, do not panic there's plenty out there looking for a strong mind and good heart. Women like passionate sex in general unless they are some casual hookin up whore...but those lookin for meaningful stuff enjoy the mind more than the body. Especially when it comes to sex. Women make love to the mind, not the body necessarily. If this one turns you down, theres a gem out there in a sea of shit just waiting for you. Trust me on that. Shallow hal is a nice film about this scenario and will recommend it.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Rejection will always hurt, no matter how softly it is couched. Just ask, you know. Preferably when there isn't anyone else around, And if she says no - well that's her prerogative and probably her loss. You'll get over it.
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reader, Ven +, writes (19 October 2010):
I would just be direct and ask her out. If she says no based entirely on how you look, that is her loss. Immature women have never looked at what is on the inside. Take your time and find someone mature enough to recognize your value as a human being, not a piece of meat.
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