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writes:Have I scared him off?I met him 18 years ago, he was 16 and I was 17. Every year since then I have always bumped into him at Christmas time in the pub and he would walk me home and we would kiss and then he would call me a couple of days later. I never accepted his calls though as I was alsways with someone else. This went on for 15 years! It has only been the last 3 that I did not see him. A couple of months ago I bumped into him whilst in a pub and it turned out that we had both come out of long-term relationships. Brilliant, I thought finally we have our chance to get together. We went out on a couple of dates and ended up sleeping together. We agreed it was quick but that it was ok as we had a lot of history together. Then he came and spent a lovely werekend with me but when it came time to leave I asked him when we would see each other next and he said he doesn't want a relationship as is not over the ex. I said ok, same was true for me but wanted to stay friends. WE saw each other as friends a couple of times and then I bumped into him again out one night and ended up going back to his and having sex. The next morning I told him I wanted more and he said that he doesn't. I don't understand how he can tell me he has liked me for years and years (18!) but doesn't want to give us a try! Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionG I think you are spot on! I'd only just come out of an 11 year relationship and definitely felt the need to be loved, as you said. As this guy had just come out of a 3 year thing and I thought was going through similar feelings after the end of his relationship as well as the fact he was someone I had known for years - it just felt safe. I made it very clear that besides my ex he had been the only man I had kissed yet alone slept with in the last 11 years! I would never offer this kinda thing normally. I really hope he doesn't think badly of me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has been chasing me for 18 years! And I held off for that long, so I didn't really give it up straight away.
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