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writes:Can anyone help me figure out this confusing behaviour please?I've known this guy as friends for about 2 years. A few weeks ago a friend of mine let him know that I was interested in him as more than friends. Subsequently he told me he felt the same way. Since then we have shared a few kisses on a number of occasions and last time I saw him (Friday night) he told me that he wanted to get to know me better and spend some time going to cinemas and meals out etc. So, we agreed to go for a walk on the beach on Sunday.On Saturday I thought that maybe this wasn't a good idea due to the weather so I sent him a message saying that maybe we should do it another time. He got back to me saying yeah no worries but didn't suggest another time. I thought that maybe I might have come acrosse as not looking that interested so I sent him a message back just letting him know that I really wanted to spend some time with him and hope to do something soon and NOTHING. He hasn't replied in three days.Yesterday I saw him out across the street and I'm sure he ignored me!How can a guy be so interested on a Friday to now completely avoiding me??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): I have another idea. If you really wanted to be with him, you should have suggested a change of venue...meet inside a coffee shop, whatever. You sent a signal that the whole thing did not mean much to you. It also turns guys off when their girls are afraid to get their hair wet. I'm afraid you should have shown up with a big umbrella and a mac.
Yes, he may be insecure, but often the insecure are the sweetest and nicest fellows...that women only appreciate after they have dealt with the other kind. You're at the age where you should know that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): This could all be in your head you know, for all you know he's thinking the same thing as you. Maybe he thinks you stood him up and perhaps he saw you and thinks you're ignoring him.
Come on you're not a teenager, just call him and talk to him.
He's been your friend for 2 years, surely you're past the stage of being awkward and as I said you're not a kid, why are you sitting there wondering what is happening when the person who can answer your question is only a phone call away.
Just think of something you'd like to do this weekend for valentines and ask him if he'd like to join you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): Perhaps he took it the wrong way. Sounds as if that might be what has happened. I simple text asking if you can sort out a date to meet up may do the trick. If you hear nothing, well then just let it go. Sometimes you just can't know what is going on in someone's head, sadly.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (11 February 2011):
 He has taken what you said about not going for a walk, the wrong way. He has done the classic 180 turn on you.
He sounds very very insecure. You should make another attempt to make it clear that you would like to give things a go with him (men tend to like it spelled out).
If he is still acting weird after that, then it's probably best to forget the whole thing.
Sorry that happened to you but maybe it's a sign.
Best of luck
AE xx
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