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writes:Hi, I'm Amber. I'm twenty-six years old and I have a question about something in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and he's a really great guy. I think I'm in love with him and he's always telling me how he cares about me. He asked a while ago about sex and it's been driving me insane. I'm a virgin and I've never even thought about having sex until he asked me about it. I don't know what to do, I keep thinking about it and I still don't have a answer. I don't know what to tell him. I'm so confused. I was hoping if anyone would give me advice on what I should do or what I should say to him. I appreicate anyone's advice.
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reader, jemmy  +, writes (24 December 2008):
yeah is good to be virgin at this time, i wont you to keep this virgin for the time you are ready,
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): You have waited this long, don't do it. Save yourself for your husband. Good luck!
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reader, zebraafreak +, writes (21 August 2008):
If you're not ready,then you're not ready,he's your bf he shouldnt force you to do anything you're not ready for.He should understand if he really does like/love you.If your worth his time,he can wait.good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I'm a virgin going through the same thing...Sept im 17 My boyfrind , understands but he still is going to try and have sexhe's a guy....But you should defintly wait untill your ready ....Your virginity is something to value......=D your my new inspiration =D[personal details removed by moderator per site guidelines]
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Just ask yourself one simple question.'Do I want to have sex with this man?'You are 26 years old, if you don't know the answer to this now, you never will.It is admirable, if somewhat disconcerting, that you have had no sexual desires until now. This not a natural thing and you might do well to get a Doctor to look you over to see why no sexual desire has surfaced at this point.We are SUPPOSED to have sexual desires... the socially awkward are just those who don't know how to go about satiating them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Yeah, don't ever sleep with any guy just to "keep him" or not lose him. It won't make that difference. If you had to do it to keep him, then you never really had him.
Make the decision entirely for yourself.
Could you break up with this guy later and not regret sleeping with him now?
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 First congratulations for keep it tight upto this moment.for real am proud of you. Well i know even if your old enough there some things you cant answer for yourself. You have been dating for only 6months. Iknow it gets tensE when a man brings that topic it was the same with me but with him was on the 8th month of our relationship. I was also a virgin and had so many questions i asked myself. Like what if i give it to him then he leaves me, does he love enough or hez just after my virginity. But later on i personally told him my fears we then talked it over. After a while i eased.then on chrismas eve that was a yr of us dating i opened up to him. I felt iwas ready for it and upto day i say to myself even if things dont work between us i wont regret. We are still together. So my dear talk it out with him first and once you feel your ready and sure do it but its a sin.its supposed to be done after marriages.give yourself some more time until your comfortable on everything. Anyways i have wrote alot goodluck and dont foget to lemmi know what happens.
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reader, betou  +, writes (5 June 2008):
the question you should ask yourself is do you want it. i don't think u should do it just because he wants to and u don't want to loose him. if his as great as you mention then he'll understand that u don't want to have sex.always remember that if ur doing it to satisfy him and your nothappy you'll regret it later and it will eat u up later.
just keep that in mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Your a virgin going out with a great guy. You think your in love with him, but you've never even thought about sex untill he brought it up.
I don't think your ready. Your first time should be magical, you should be head over heels in love and so full of passion that you tear his clothes off before he even walks in the door.
This relationship is new, take your time and get to know him better. It would be awfull to give up your virginity when your not sure, after keeping it so long.
My mother alwsys told me that your ready for sex when kissing and cuddling are no longer enough. Is this how you feel? If not tell him your not ready and wait until you are.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Whether you want to have sex or not is entirely your decision. If you aren't comfortable with it, or can't come up with an answer, then wait a while.
Just tell your boyfriend pretty much what you've said here - you've never really thought about it, you don't know how you feel about it, and you'd maybe like to wait until you feel comfortable with it.
Your boyfriend sounds like he cares about you, and as such, he should be willing to wait until you are ready.
Good luck. =)
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