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writes:Every single website i've seen so far on how to get over a break up says NO COMMUNICATION. But I can't do that. My ex is my best friend, one of my only friends...i dont have many. I want to still be best friends with her, and hang out with her just as much. but how am i supposed to get over her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I agree with Bluekev. I think you have a better chance of healing if you can remain in touch with your best friend now the relationships has ended albeit much less on a different level. When i broke up with my boyfriend/best friend it hurt as we were 20 and had known each other since we were 16. He finally cut all ties when I was 22. I am 33 now and miss him terribly. He was my soulmate and I told him everything. My I regret is the best friendship we lost. I too am in mourning it does feel like he has died.You have something worth cherishing even if the romantic relationship has gone. Boyfriends come and go but friends especially good friends last a lifetime.
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reader, bluekev +, writes (11 February 2009):
You actually have an opportunity here. To slowly get over this person. You see your not looking at the other side of this. Its hard to get over someone even when your not friends. This one girl I liked where it didn't work out we completely stopped seeing each other. I went threw intense depression. Wanted to end it all. And I felt like I couldn't live. It can be totaly agony when you are cut off entirely from someone you love. Its almost like you go threw a period of mourning. All though the person is still alive you will never see them again so from your standpoint its like they died except only to you. I think your situation is better. Being totllay cut off you feel like you can't breath or even live. It totally sucks!
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (11 February 2009):
 A lot of people who break up lose their best friends. My ex and I were best friends, I told him everything and he was THE only person I talked to, I literally had no friends except him. When we broke up I felt completely alone. But talking to him made it worse, I kept thinking we would get back together and it hurt... And I couldn't get over him. You can't keep talking to her or you will never move on. You will be able to again one day though, like now my ex and I have no problem talking and hanging out, I feel nothing for him anymore. Without the time and space I would've never gotten over it. How I got over it is I talked to my family more and tried to keep myself busy with new tv shows and work, reading new books, etc. It may help to know why you broke up. Was it mutual or her decision? I really don't know of any way to get over someone except with space. And like I said it doesn't have to be forever. Feel free to email me if you ever need someone to talk to. Good luck.
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