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writes:I know they say don't look for a girlfriend but how am I suppose to find a girlfriend when I'm in a male dominated industry like engineering. I'm 22 and have one year left at uni so I'm still young and I recognise the problem (and also I'm not dating a girl because I hate being alone or just clinging to the first girl that likes me) so I don't have a desperation vibe over me. Although my problem is that I always have problems approaching people. When I started hillwalking at uni it took me a while before I started having conversations (or starting them) with some of the members even though none of them were horrible people. The problem I have is that when I meet a girl I like and have no problems with conversation, they either have just gotten into a relationship or just come out of one.Can anyone give help on improving my chances with women. Someone said join clubs that I like doing that have a good mix of men and women. I don't wnat to do the night club scene in meeting women as that is always a huge disaster Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): Join more university societies. And when your talking to girls just go for it, or you'll never do it.
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reader, candygirl_iraq  +, writes (10 August 2010):
I understand where you're coming from,because I am from your neighbouring country.I assume Jordan is more open minded regarding this issue.I wouldn't advise you to go to a hooker/nightclub or even interact with such women because in our society it might give you a split personality regarding women and relationships. We both know that when the time comes and you want to get married, you will look for the good virgin,bu,if you have had your share of the other type,it will be complicated.
I think I would know how young women in your country thing,and the good young man is always appealing. Just be kind,repectful,down to earth & funny. A nice smile always does the trick. Stay away from cliche` and cheap compliments and flirting.And NEVER say Nancy or Haifa or whoever are so sexy! we hate that!!
BTW,Inshalla you'll get a job soon and yes,a girl from your work area is a good idea. I am an engineer myself,and i wouldn't say we have high standards or are too picky, but we prefer engineers as well. I think you will be just fine if love is your true intention,and a serious relationship.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): if you need a bit of practice, hire a hooker and talk/interact/have sex with her. it will build your confidence. then start going to pubs and clubs and flirt a bit. soon enough you'll have a lass' number and away you go. (with the hooker part, make sure your 'protected')
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Does your future girlfriend have to be an engineer? They do exist but maybe not as many as men.
Maybe try on-line dating instead? If you do meet a woman dont talk about technical stuff you will bore her silly. Listen to her, treat her right but dont come across desperate.
Where and when you meet may be when you dont expect it, while out shopping etc... Be confident but not over done and keep looking.
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