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How am I making him choose? when I've said I'd rather he stopped texting me and enjoyed himself

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Question - (1 June 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend has limited evenings with me a week, I really don't like this but there's nothing I can do

Often he'll decide that there's something or someone more worthy of his time than me and our relationship. This distresses me to no end, having to try and keep up a relationship by text rather than the 10 per cent of time spent together.

While he's off doing whatever, on one of our designated evenings together, we text each other. I have to wait between 1 and 4 hours for a reply from him, which he thinks is acceptable, but I think is far too long.

I've expressed my feelings to him for taking so long, saying I'd rather he just enjoyed his night with his friends than having to rush off to text me back but he enjoys texting me.

Now he tells me that it feels like I'm making him choose between me and the company he's keeping on the nights he's meant to be with me.

How am I making him choose when I've said I'd rather he stopped texting me and enjoyed himself than asking him to reply quicker?!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011):

The situation with texting is not very clear to me. First u said, you think it uneccaptable for him not to answer for such a long time, then u said you expressed your feelings to him telling him not to rush with answers?

And after he gets a very strange reaction like u said the complete opposite.

But never mind that. It sounds like u are being manipulated by him big time. He does what he wants, changes his plans on you. That's not ok. You shouldn't be ok with that. Don't let anyone treat you like that, and if they don't stop, walk away.

He doesn't have to include u in every activity that he does, but tr

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