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writes:theres this guy at my school..ive just recently joined this new school after giving birth to my son i felt i should start fresh and newso, this boyno one at this new school noes i have a son (in case of bullying and stuff)and me and this boy got really close and i relli relli liked himso i told him about my son and he's cool with it and wanted to be there for both of usthen this girl asked him out and he said yes and we were both really upset about it, now him and this girl are over and im not sure how i feel about him anymorei went to the cinema with him and felt...well nothingr my emotions screwed up? or have the feelings gne?? do i love him?im so confused how i could love him soo much one month then the next feel..diffrentlyhelp? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (14 October 2007):
Don't expect a child to make decisions like an adult. Having a child at your age indicates your parents did not teach you the limits that should be applied to someone your age. Try and stay a child and learn the skill you will need to support yourself and your child instead of chasing young boys.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (14 October 2007):
 Sweethart, you're very young. But having children (at any age) makes us grow up a little faster than those who don't. You have a child now, so naturally you have someone else's intrests to look out for. Once you have a child, they should ALWAYS come first. When you're thinking about having a relationship with a boy you need to analyze every aspect of him. Is he trustworthy? Is he genuinely nice? Is he concerned about your needs and welfare? Could he be a potential role model for your son? Does he make you feel safe?
See, there are a lot of things to consider, even though your young, you need to do what's best for you AND your child. I think the reason you're having mixed feeling about this boy is because he has already betrayed your trust. If he wanted to be there for you and your son, then he wouldn't have run off with the first girl that asked him out. So is he trustworthy? I'd say "No". Is he honest? I'd say "No". Do you really think he's concerned about your welfare.....again, I'd say "No". And I'm not trying to burst your bubble or make you feel bad in any way. I don't know your situation, but to fall pregnant at such a young age and keep the baby is takes a lot of courage. He's just not the right guy for you. If you don't feel anything for this guy, don't try and force yourself to. Trust me, there are so many other good guys out there who will fulfill your needs, wants and desires, as well as your childs. Don't rush into anything, use this time to live for your son. Instead of focusing your energy on these young boys who will (more than likely) not last, spend it focusing on your son. He needs it more than these other boys do, they have mothers, and your son needs his.
Focus on getting good grades and going to college so you can support your son because I'm telling you, it's hard. I regret not going to college because it's hard having kids and living paycheck to paycheck. You are young enough where you have the opportunity to pave a better path for you and your son. Live for that and the rest will fall in place. Please, trust me on this one. I promise you, the love of your life will come when your not looking for him, when you least expect it. But I would't expect it right now. Give yourself room to grow, love your son and he will love you unconditionally back. I wish you the best sweetie. Keep your head up and think possitive!
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (13 October 2007):
 Sometimes your feelings change for someone
Sometimes for the good and sometimes for temporary until something happens which brings them back. The 1st date may have been akward, but feelings may appear on other get togethers. If nothing appears, move on. You can always trust him as a friend.
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