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writes:I recently started a new job, and i was working late i was speaking to a new female colleague, who i found attractive, anyway earlier in the day i had to send her an email work related.Just before she finished work we got talking about excercise and ipods, during this i mentioned you can put anything on there, she asked me if i had somestuff she wanted for hers i said i will check but as i was working late i couldnt do anything that evening. I hadnt known her long or anything about her or her me. Next she says i will text you when i get home with the stuff i'm after. I said you havnt got my number, she said i have i have it off your email ! (cheeky i thought or a blokes trick). I was thinking i cant do anything later but if you want to text so be it.We left her office as she was finishing and as we parte she said dont forget i will text you late (like confirming permission. Two hours later she text about the stuff she wanted i a jokey tone (i guess flirty) i replied and we exchanged three text. Th efinal one of me saying will let you know when i complet each stage of the ipod downlaod process, she replies keep me posted at each stage. Next day i text - stage one complete. No reply. Day later i text stage two complete - no reply. Im thinking strange. Day three i text all done when you want it. No reply.I leave it a couple of days and think how rude, im doing you a favour and you text me i didnt actually give you my number. So I text.. wondering if your alive, ipod stuff done, will stick in the internal post to you if you still want it.I get a reply yeah alive and kicking was just tide up last week, will pop over and get that stuff thanks.Girls i work with commented . she fancies you. Which is what i thought and she seemed keen.I found out to my surprise she trains at the gym with my ex !! We didnt seperate well, i caught her cheating and since that time we never regained a friendship or anything eventhough i walked.My questions are this, is the girl interested and have i come across to keen or misread things ??Or is it likley she has said something to my ex and my ex has spoilt the situation ?Im interested in the new girl but do't know how to lay this ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): I can only speak for myself here, the only texts I take my time in replying to are 1) the ones I don't find important to either myself or the sender 2) if it's just a bit of info and 3) if it's someone of the opposite sex who's interested in me but I don't share the same feelings for him!! If someone was doing me a favour, or asked me a question, naturally I would reply fairly soon, however if I was interested in this person, I would reply immediately UNLESS UNLESS UNLESS I was a little unsure about the situation. I met a very charming man last year. We knew each other to say hello to in passing, then one day, to my surprise, he sent me a text? It took me 24hrs to respond simply because I was a little unsure...things developed and it turned out he was my true love...except I was not his and the relationship has since come to an end although we strangely enough still have eyes for each other? He sent me a text last week and I've still not replied, yet he's on my mind all the time and we'll give each other a flirtatious smile in passing...call it love games! Bottom line is that there are no rules to romance and you have to feel your way through without analysing too much. There could be many reasons why she took her time in replying; perhaps she's recently come out of a relationship and needs a little time to herself. Perhaps she had her eyes on someone else and since you've shown an interest, she's now a little confused or maybe it's just that she's learnt from past mistakes and is taking her time in entering a new friendship. Do what you're doing, show that you're interested but don't become a pest. When she comes to get her things from you be charming, smile and give her something to smile about. There’s no need to rush things, it's not about getting there, it's about enjoying the journey. Have fun but remember to take note of her actions and re-actions, these will soon let you know how she feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): consider this: maybe it's not all about you? maybe she has her own issues to resolve?
take it slow... it's too early to be worrying. your worrying can easily turn this whole situation into a game. when the time is right and she really does like you, it will all fall into place.
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