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*wilchic
writes:Hi. Im 18 and single. Theres a 31 year old guy who I've become friends with in the charity shop where I volunteer. He's single but has a 4 year old daughter and maybe 1 on the way. We get on great as friends but I'm starting to feel like I'm developing a crush on him. We exchange flirty texts and quite often jokes when we are working together. Both of us have been in bad relationships and homeless. He's blowing hot and cold though?We've been mistaken as a married couple before. What should I do?
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reader, twilchic +, writes (9 July 2012):
twilchic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. He is single but his ex is pregnant and although she says its his hes unsure. I understand where you both are coming from. Its hard because some days we talk for hours other dats he ignores me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 You need to think about this logically, yes it is great you have such a great friendship but there is a big age gap here. He may have a child on the way and he already has a 4 year old, you are only 18 and still quite young, could you really see yourself getting in to a relationship like this and becoming a step mum to his children. Am sure there is still a lot you want to do while you are still young so maybe it is best to stop the flirting and remain just friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): I think you need to sit down and have a think about things on your own. You need to work out what your real feelings are for him, and if possible perhaps try to work out what his feelings are for you. I'd say you need to be careful though that is isn't just infatuation, as that could hurt one or both of you if it is and you realise it too late, and could potentially hurt your seemingly already great friendship too.However, I'm a little perplexed by the fact that you say "He's single" and "maybe 1 on the way". Is he really single, or what?All that said though, the fact that "We've been mistaken as a married couple before" does suggest to me that you two may be great for each other.Hope this helps.
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