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writes: Ok, I ran into my ex of 2 months in the bar Thursday night. I asked him how he was and he said fine and kept walking. I was like screw it I'm done w/his confusing on-off BS. He ends up texting me an hr later asking where I was and what I was doing. I said I was drinking at a different bar and he asked if we could meet. I said I love you and he says 'i love you too, where do you want to meet?". So I end up meeting him and we were all kiss, lovey dovey right away. He was telling me how he'd read all my emails, i'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, and we kept saying how much we loved each other all night. We had a great time just dancing, drinking, kissing, being ga-ga over each other again. We ended up having sex that night and he kissed me in the morning before he was out the door for work. I left him a note before I left saying that I hoped it wasn't a 1 night drunkent thing and that I assumed we were back together and that he should just be honest w/me and not ignore me again. I called him that afternoon when he was back and asked him if 'we were good' and he said yes. I text him later that night around 9pm and got nothing. He ends up calling me at 1am, 2am, and 3:30am (going from bar to bar and to a party). He was pretty lovey-dovey on the phone again and even left a voicemail ending in I Love you which was nice to hear since I didn't have to say it first. He asked when we'd see each other again and talking about how busy we both are. (I live an hr away but am back there 2 a week but he just started a new job that has odd hrs) I told him just don't start ignoring me again and he said he wouldn't. Well I haven't heard from him since that 3:30am phone call from him. I've left him 2 messages and 2 texts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I phoned him to stop by today & nap w/him since he works graveyard shift & when I got there he was all pissed because nobody was letting him sleep. I layed on the bed facing the other way & didn't say a word. Within 5minutes he rolled over and put his arm around me, kissed me & started being all cuddly again. He started fooling around w/me a little but then we went back to sleep. I ended up sorta 'teasing' him after awhile & we ended up messing around again & then showering together. We joked & talked about random stuff then I had to go to work. He answered when I called after work didn't have to much to say. I guess what's bothering me now is that I feel like I'm more serious about us being back together & staying together this time then he is. I'm glad we're back on track & talking/laughing again but it's not the same as it was before in terms of how often we talk and he doesn't really talk about our future anymore when he used to constantly. He also doesn't seem to be quite as excited to see each other or care when the next time is that we'd see each other..maybe I'm over analyzing that part but before he always wanted me to come over & we'd see each other everday & talk a couple times a day. I realize it's only been a few days since we got back together but I just don't want to have to put in the majority of the effort to talk or see each other or have another breakup hanging over my head....Is this behavior something to worry about or is it to be expected since we've been apart so long? I'm very happy again but I just want to feel a little more at ease w/what's been going on & know that he has his whole heart back in this too.
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reader, Zanders +, writes (16 October 2006):
 sounds to me like you need to give him some distance, if you keep hounding him all the time he will either get fed up or if nothing else he will not be that bothered to call or text you as you are doing all the leg work.
Give him something to chase! dont forget it may just of been a bootey call for him, Men are great at fibbing when it gets them Sex.
Do enough chasing and texting - let him meet you half way.
otherwise get back out there and find someone who will give you the attention you deserve and want.
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