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writes:Wtf do I do? My younger brother lost his job, is broke and has been living with a friend who kicked him out. He called me tonight crying homeless and wanting me to take him in. The thing is he's a dog from way back whenit comes to sexing every chick I either liked or hooked up with. He fucked my first wife and got her pregnant. I don't want to keep a brother out in the cold but damn I got a wife and she look good. What the hell should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): I feel your pain, believe me....I also got a phone call on Dec 6, 2010 from my sister asking me to take my brother into my home until she could get to my home to pick him up which was suppose to be 5 days. I told him and her that I could not take care of him I'm unemployed living off 1200 a month with a son in college and a son who is 7 years old. So dummy me went and got him and then kept in contact with my sister during this time. After the five days he was with me she decided to tell me he was better off with me than with her. And he was not welcome at her home. After 6 weeks of living with me and my rent going up $50 a month plus my water bill and power bill going up also about $50 a month. My ex is paying about $500 a month so I don't end up on the street.I called my sister and she told me there is no way he is coming here, your going to have to do what you have to do. Well needless to say he is still here sucking me dry. I have got him numerous applications and none get filled out, he seems to be happy living off me as I drown while he is making $100 a week at a job my ex got him. I drive him everyday and two checks now he has received and has offered me nothing. So tonight he is getting some forms to fill out for low income housing and if he doesn't then he is out for sure on the 1st. And if he does I will be human enough to wait for them to call with a room. Please pray for me and I will for you also. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): His friend probably kicked him out for trying to snake in on his woman. I know he's brother but there's certain line that family just don't cross and this is one of them. The dude has major mental issue. It takes a lousy selfish empty hearted bastard to grime family like this. Family or not I would never expose my wife or kids to him. He's the lowest of the lowest grime. Ignore him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): DO NOT TAKE HIM IN.
Are u bloody crazy, listening to people tell u he is blood. Where was his thinking when he had sex with your wife and made her pregnant. I am all for helping people but he fooled u once. Unfortunately his actions have consequences and he must pay the price for betraying you. You need to have your head read if u take this man into your home. In essence it is an open invitation to him saying: go ahead f*ck my wife. So decide either help your so called brother and lose your wife. Easy.
If u allow him into your life again he will wreck it once more. Is this what u want. Now is the time to take a stand and say Enough! You do not have to become a victim again.
In another post a Good Uncle mentioned something about not leaving his brother/male at hm when he goes out. Meaning this Uncle does not invite temptation and knows what needs to be done to protect his home. U do the same and do not feel bad that u turned your brother away.
We can all say he is your brother but what brother betrays another with his own wife.
Be firm and do not have a moment of weakness and take this man in. U owe him nothing so expect nothing. Have u considered that brother wants to destroy your hm all over again.
LoveGirl
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 December 2010):
 True he's not your responsibility, but he is your own flesh and blood. You could put him up in a hotel, but that would only be a temporary fix, seeing as it would be costly to pay for a room every night. Why doesn't he move back home with your parents? Is the only reason you don't want him to stay is because you're afraid of history repeating itself? It takes two to tango and your ex wife was just as unfaithful.
I say take him in, because it would be a bit cruel to let your brother be homeless when you're perfectly capable of accommodating him. Make it clear the rules of your home, he can stay until this day to find a job and move out. Also, let him know you will be keeping an eye on him.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 December 2010):
 You could pay for him to stay in a hotel. But if your wife is home alone at any point..then..you know. PLus You not taking him in makes you a bad brother,,,but what does he screwing u wife make him. Maybe he doesnt deserve help. he isnt ur responsiblity. Why doesnt he have a job? HAve you tlked to your wife about this. Maybe you should. Unless she is the "u have to do the right thing" type. If he lives there you are always going to wonder. Cant he live with you parents? Another friend. A girl he hooked up with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): I understand that inavoidable pulllllling feeling in the conscience to familial obligation... but he impregnated your first wife?!! WHAT. If you've been able to come to forgiveness for him for that, I Applaud your character. More Than Applaud, goodness.
Is there anything you can fix... a friend's house where he could stay? A motel for a time? Anything else?
You could take him in and watch him like a hawk... warn your wife about his ways...
Yikes,
Tante Victoire
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