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writes:i went to turkey for the first time on holiday with my mum and dad. we went to this family bar, and i knew that one of the staff fancied me. he made me a paper rose, and then asked to slow dance with me. the next night he bought me a rose and on my last night on holiday he gave me another rose and a teddy. I felt so happy with him, and he wasnt sleezy and didnt try to touch me or anything like that. he was really friendly and funny and sweet. i felt sure at the time that he really liked me but know i am wondering if i should bring myself back to earth knowing it was just for the holidays or should i keep the relationship between us. the next part of my story is the difficult part...My parents got paranoid because he asked for my email address, and they didnt want me to see him again. they told me this a couple of hours before i was meant to leave. they locked me in the room and then took me away from the hotel so i couldnt go to the restaurant where me and him arranged to meet up until i left for the airport. i was really upset, and about an hour before i had to leave, i was sitting with my parents in the hotel reception and i saw him wandering around my hotel outdoor restaurant. my parents let me talk to him. he had been looking for me for an hour (he knew where i was staying as i pointed the hotel out to him from his bar. we spent a happy hour talking on a bench in earshot of my parents so they knew i was safe.he didnt try anything of course, and he asked me to visit turkey again next year, and he said he missed me a lot. he said he made his facebook picture of us and i saw he had our photo as his wallpaper. its now been two days since i got back and he still hasnt added me as he said. my parents finally let me give him my email address and he said he would contact me, and i was happy enough with that i didnt ask for his. when we said our final goodbyes i could see a lovely, sweet adoration in his eyes, like his eyes were more shiny than usual. i wasnt sure if it was a real love i could seemy question is: is this is a holiday romance or love? and am i being paranoid he hasnt contacted me yet? and what do i do if he doesnt?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhere's an update: we keep in touch, and we call each other once a month. he wants to stay in touch and have a genuine friendship which is nice, and i think back to my holiday with a smile. but he wont stop me from going out with boys. he is lovely, but i would never be in a relationship with him :3
appreciate ur help guys thanks xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to provide an update.
Turns out he didnt have facebook but he set one up and added me today.
but its good advice you gave me, and i wont forget it. thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys :)
To DuckyHelp
I understand, but if it was just to get me into the bar, why did he spend his own time looking for me on the last day, when i wasnt planning on spending any more money in his bar?
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Its a holiday romance I should know. I did this a couple of years back when i went to Turkey!
Its basicaly how they get you back every night for you to spend money there, its tourism. And now your gone he will be doing the same thing with tonnes of girls. I wouldnt worry about it too much. Yes it was fun, but it could never last. Next year you will feel different. And the contacting thing, turks go to internet shop things, so when he is off work he will probs do it, but this could take weeks. Everything he's said to you is what he says to every girl. You will see this as soon as you add him on facebook and see that the majority of his friends are British girls who went on holiday to turkey and met him.
If you wana talk about it or anything, just inbox me, i know how you feel kinda :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
DO NOT trust this guy. I think it was a holiday romance, nothing more. But it could be something far darker, and maybe you're safer not knowing what.
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