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writes:Hey everyone.I recently broke up with my boyfriend but we booked flights to visit his home country for easter (at a different time to him but to the same place). I can't afford to change them or move them or the place I was supposed to be staying. I wanted to give them to his sister but it would cost the same amount as the flights themselves to change her name onto them and I will STILL be out of pocket.I could do with the holiday and the time away but I'm afraid if I go it will come across as stalkery and strange even if I am simply seeking a holiday by myself especially if he sees me out there.What would you advise?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 March 2018):
 By all means , go ! Not going would be a terrible waste of money , plus you could do with a vacation and the time away. Of course it depends a bit from where you are going, like, if you are visiting,say, New York or Rome, I think it's highly improbable that he spots you "out there" among millions of people ( btw, did n't you say that you are going at different times ? So, how could you bump into him accidentally if he is not even going to be there to begin with... ? But this must be something that I misunderstood ). While if you are going to a tiny Greek osland with only one tourist resort.. and maybe he is bartending the resort when he goes there... eh well, that would be sort of embarassing, I suppose.
But even so, I would encourage you to go anyway, even to the tiny Greek island, because, the good part of being broken up with somebody is that you can start not giving a damn about what he thinks or feels. So even if he sees you out there and thinks it is strange- his problem, why should you care ? As long as you do not try to approach him or contact him or bother him in any way , hey it's not that that particular city or beach or Island belongs to HIM, is it ? Everybody can go there !
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2018): Don't waste your money! GO!
You don't have to be anywhere near him. If you've already paid for tickets; he knows you'd lose money if you canceled or transferred the tickets. He's not stupid, and he knows it's a matter of bad-timing. If it appears you're stalking, too bad! It's over and there's nothing to prove to him!
Don't bother him or go anywhere you know for sure you'd run into him. Don't contact him or his family; and you'll be fine.
Be sure that you don't yield to the temptation to snoop on him. It's a fresh breakup, and you really shouldn't do anything foolish; or let your curiosity get the better of you.
If you just so happen to run into him "accidentally on purpose;" it was your only reason for going. Be that the case, you're in for a miserable holiday and you wasted your money anyway! Pretend you're an international spy, and go undetected!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 March 2018):
 If you know deep down that you are only going for a holiday and not to check up on him then do it. But if you are going in the hope to see him I would advice not going. Only you know the answer to that.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 March 2018):
 Go on holiday, you payed for it.
If he sees you who cares? If he asks you tell him you didn't want to waste the tickets.
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