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female
age
36-40,
MonicaC
writes:We are all seeking love in this world in one form or another. What strikes me is that over the course of my life, the search for love has changed in rather strange ways for most people around me. When I was young, I was of the belief that life was short and I should spend all the time I had seeking passionate fulfillment of my desires. I believed that pleasure was the only goal and hedonistic pursuits were the mainstay of my existence. Needless to say, I had some wonderful experiences, and also a few bad ones. I hope that I learned from all of them. But, there came a time when I wanted to put away my childish fascination with sex and find something more lasting, something real. Sex was (and still is) a huge component in my love life, but finding someone who truly values me as a woman and who really wants to be with me through good times and bad has become more significant than the mere satisfaction of my physical needs.Maybe as we grow older it's commonplace to change your objectives in life. But, what scares me is the fact that there seem to be so few people around anymore who place the same value on commitment, loyalty, fidelity and honesty that I do. I may have been a maverick in most ways all my life, but I'm not when it comes to love. I'm as old-fashioned as they come in that regard. I want someone to come home to at night, someone to wrap my arms around and hold close to me, someone to laugh at old movies with, to walk on the beach with, to eat Cajun food with in New Orleans, to listen to jazz, to grow old with...but most of all, someone who I can trust to be here for me when I need them most.I believe there are still people who want this in life, just as I do. But, I worry sometimes that the youth of today are too short-sighted to realize what they will lose by throwing all their innocence out the window at 15 and failing to see that if they hold out for the real thing in love, they'll be all the happier for it. I'm not promoting virginity until 30 or anything ridiculous like that. No, I'm only saying that it would be better to wait to experience some things until they meet the person they love. Intimacy is something that is beautiful and rare and should be treasured, not just given away because it's cool to others.I don't regret my past, but at my age because I have done most everything already, I wish I had saved a few things until I got a little older. I lived too fast too young.
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