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writes:Lets say something happened to you, something that frustrates you, eats you inside, fills you with anger and makes you so upset... Do you think it is better to keep how you really feel to yourself. So that you can deal with it in your time, or learn to block those feeling and thoughts out and hope you'll move on from it?Or do you think that it's better to let how you're feeling out and allow others to know how your feeling. Even though they can sympathize, yet unless they've experienced it, they wont understand what you're going through and how you feel?I say this because I don't know what to do. Yesterday i started to brake down when my friend mentioned the topic. And she said that i need to let out how i'm feeling because i've been holding it in and that i'm allowed to feel upset and angry.... But I don't want to let my emotions and thoughts get to me. I don't want anyone to see how i honestly feel, or let myself cry.. Because then I'm opening that door and allowing myself to be upset and angry at what's happened. I just feel that if i shut out how i really feel and don't get emotional, then i'll soon get over what happened. Right?
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reader, nonnatimes3  +, writes (24 October 2015):
Holding your feelings in is never a good thing. I am in a relationship for almost 4 yrs. I honestly don't know how Im still here. He is someone that never shows emotion nor allows me to tell him how I feel..we don't talk for days and then when we do I yell because I am so frustrated. He just blocks me out and feels it is better to not show your feeling then to argue and let it out. So to answer the question which is better..LET IT OUT
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): I think the answer to this question is something that cannot be advised. There is no right answer.In my life a lot of things make me angry and sad. And If i let my feelings out then I would spend most of my life moaning instead of looking for the positives. And when ever there is a time that i need aggression to perform, like when working out. I can home all that energy into lifting weights and I can get a buzz.So for me keeping emotions locked up until they can be used for something of value or benefit to me is the method that works for me.So ask yourself. Is there a better way that you can let out all your aggression than spilling all to your friends, have you got a gym nearby and want to get fit, maybe start boxing and home all your energy into something that will bring you positive benefits like health and fortune.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Nope your wrong. Am afraid your friend is right and you should listen to them. I know exactly where you are coming from though, yes pretend everything is ok that you are ok and eventually you will forget about this thing that has happened and how it has made you feel and you will get over it. But it doesn't work like that hunny.
You cant hold things in because they will always find a way of coming out, maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but somewhere down the line it will come out all the anger and frustration will build up until you explode and then regret it. So talk to the people who are involved tell them how they have made you feel and what they have done to you and then you can close the door on that chapter of your life. Dont worry about crying. It is natural and always helps to have a good cry about something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Right.
You're not letting you're emotions out because you're not confident about whom to talk to or you're just not good at expressing.
If you have this urge to let it out, then find someone you trust and share that with him|her. If you think you'll get over it then you sure will. You're stronger than you think. Set a goal or a hobby you're interested in and do that whenever you're getting angry and as time passes you'll forget it. Time will heal everything. Just don't ever think you're weak. You're strong. Believe that. No one can break you unless you let it. Try not to keep youreself ideal. After all, Ideal mind is a devil's workshop.
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