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writes:the father of my baby is a married man.At first he said he is going to support me all the way but his wife finds it and she is harassing and threatening me just to abort the baby.Now she spread the rumors in my workplace because her husband works there as well.I dont know what to do.I am really depressed and feel isolated?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): If she is still harassing and threatening you, I would get a protection order against her. You can't make him love you if he doesn't, but you can make him support the child financially. Dating a married man isn't smart if what you want is a commitment; you are dating someone who has trouble with commitment by definition and also isn't free and clear to make a new one until after a divorce that can take many months and be messy. In the future, align your desires with your choices. But, that said, you're not at fault for what he chose -he married his wife and then he had sex with another. You have no part in his vows, IMO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): you invadedthis womans marriage and life. what did you expect her to do. turn the other cheek as you f*cked her husband. there is only one victim here.....and it is the "unwanted" baby. unwanted by your married man, unwanted by his wife, and i also question your motives in trying to keep this baby. please do not bring this inncoent being into a world where it would not be loved. life is so precious, plse do not make this child suffer for your wrongs. your actions has consequences. my sympathies are with this unborn child and what life it has in store. did you try to "trap" your married man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): next time, please note that married men are off limits. now to complicate this messy situation even further you innocently deliberately fall pregnant. what did you hope for- for your married lover to leave his wife for his pregnant mistress? you want to bring an innocent baby into your messed up world. and you actually think you have the right to do this. just as you messed up your life, you will mess up this babys. now what do you honestly think the best solution is? you are not a child so please stop acting like one. in life our actions determine the consequences. yes, you now want sympathy because this married mans wife is fighting for her marriage and her man. wouldn't you do the same if your hb's mistress was also trying to railroad your life? just like what you are now doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Well to be honest, shes wrong for threatening those horrible things, its completely your choice and he should support you, of course he should. But you cant expect his wife to be happy about the situation you were having an affair with her husband and now your having his baby! Shes bound to be bitter and want to get her revenge in any way possible. I mean i dont want to be awful but if i was her i'd have hit you by now. The hell you'll have put her through....
You surely knew what you were getting into before you started this affair..
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 June 2009):
 If you want to keep the baby then keep it! And he should support you, you can get help with making him pay money towards it. As for her, just ignore her rumors, if its really that bad then try to find a new job after you have had the baby. X
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