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writes: 2 Weeks ago I met someone through a common friend. Lets just call him G. G is a good looking guy, kind and always a gentleman almost to everyone.He never failed to say hi or message me almost everyday.So I always thought of him as a friendly guy.Then my friend T, a female friend, just got back from overseas. She, just like me, was mending a broken heart.but she's more a drama queen than me. I can handle myself so well.So, I thought of setting her up with G. I talked to G and asked whether his single and what type of women would he usually go for.He told me the qualities he usually look for, and my goodness, I found out, they are so perfect for each other. My friend T does have all the qualities he looks forI really do think that they would click.So I asked G if he would be interested to date someone and he said yes. Then I told him about T. I asked him if he would be interested to date my friend. He got sour. He said he thought i am interested in him, like he is interested in me. there was a long pause. It was a nauseating moment for me. sure his cute, but I never imagine him as more than friends. Plus I never had a clue. I didn't know his wink and smile would mean he likes me.After that he always avoid to look at me like, I have a chicken pox. Plus he blocked me. Now I gain another enemy, my question is, Is it really insulting for a guy who likes you to set them up with someone else?Why? Does it really hurt their feelings for real or just another make believe drama? I don't plan to apologize, because I know I didn't do anything wrong.But his weird behavior made me curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys thank you so much for all your fabulous responses.
Honeypie, you have a point maybe in his mind that's whats going on. I'm just a little bit sad that I lost a new friend. I think he was very insulted, to overreact. But that's him I cant make him change his mind. Thank u so, so much, HP.
WiseOwIe, Honestly I am really totally clueless. All this time, I really thought he was just being friendly. If I have known it, I could be at least a bit sensitive to match him w/someone else. Maybe you should write about how to tell if a guy likes you. I thought I knew it all, but it turns out i have A LOT to learn.
Because with my past bf's they were very crystal clear w/their intentions from the very start. For me, it takes more than a wink, text, smiles, calls for me to say a guy is into me. Thank you so much WiseO.
llifton, I totally agree w/you and WiseO, i missed the signs his interested to me. I also get sad about what happen, because just like what I mentioned earlier I lost a new friend. to think he was really nice to me, now he totally stop talking to me. The thing is, It always happen. When you just want to stay friends, they can't.
Well, what can i say, that's life.
Anyway, thank u so so much guys. Happy Xmas!
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reader, llifton  +, writes (16 December 2013):
 lol oops.
while i certainly don't think what you did was intentionally hurtful, you definitely missed the clear signs he was giving you that he was interested.
usually when you first meet a guy and they go out of their way to contact you every day, they are looking for more than just friendship. so he obviously thought you were on board and into him, as well. so in his mind, he was thinking he was getting to know you and potentially going to start dating you. so when you mentioned setting him up with someone else, he got his feelings hurt.
it would be like if you liked a guy a lot, and you spent a good bit of time talking to him and developing feelings for him, and then he started talking about hooking up with another girl. you'd probably be saddened and a little hurt, as well. not to forget to mention embarrssed.
that's how he's feeling. he got his pride hurt and he wanted to date YOU. it sucks pretty bad when the person you like doesn't like you back. and it sucks even worse when they are trying to hook you up with other people. lol.
i don't think he blocked you to be malicious. i just think he realized dating you wasn't an option and he wanted to move on. and i think he felt a little bit stupid.
anyway, it's nothing to feel bad about. you just missed the signs. at least you found out sooner rather than later and he didn't get too attached to you.
best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2013): It has only been the span of just over two weeks that this whole incident has occurred, start to finish.He's a nice guy and he was flirting at you. You bruised his ego and embarrassed him. Seems when it comes to how guys feel in a situation; everybody's completely off the mark.If he was interested in a another woman, why the heck would he be texting and winking at you?I get so many people who claim they're getting mixed signals, and you get just short of a billboard sign over the guy's head telling you he likes you.He isn't being weird! He got shot down and he's embarrassed!!! Oh, that and the fact that he may not need a matchmaker.He'll do better the next time; when he finds someone who appreciates the effort. You just struck out!Big time!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 December 2013):
 Since you only knew him for 2 week, I think he WAY overreacted and honestly HE would be a good fit with your drama-llama friend, but his loss.
Maybe he thought (since you met through friends) that THEY SET YOU two up. And he felt dumb finding out you "only" saw him as a friend. He thought he was wooing you.
Did you hurt his feeling, well obviously judging by his actions, but these things happen when people ASSUME different things.
And no, I don't think you DID anything wrong either.
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