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36-40,
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writes:My boyfriend's sister has been communitcating with my bf's ex. All the communications have been mean stuff about me. They call me mean names, talk bout how they wish my bf was still with his ex, plot ways to get them back together..and so on. I have no idea what i should do. My feelings are so hurt, but at the same time I am very angry. The worst part is his sister is very nice to my face. Help!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (24 October 2007):
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How do you know that they have been doing this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Who told you about his sister's plotting and gossiping? Is it reliable information that they're conspiring at your back? Best solution, [don't] let it consume you. Continue to be friendly with the sister, if it's true she's two-faced perhaps time'll calm her down. Speaking about it loudly would put you in a bad light if you're misinformed regarding what's happening "behind the scenes." This really should not affect you. If the bf is sensitive to the gossip, it can show he doesn't trust your relationship sufficiently, so be prepared to explain him jumping to conclusions can be hurtful to others and depending on the circumstances give him or not a chance. How is his relationship with the sister? If she has history in undermining/gosipping, her brother can be familiarised with that habit and not give her credit. All in all, rationality is the major clue in this equation, and half-said things shouldn't reach to you and cause anger, especially when you're not sure of the danger. Are you? Now, continue to repay the unwelcome occurrences with kindness and hospitableness and if it becomes a problem of significance you can talk to your bf and find reassurement. As for the ex, she's may seek to constitute alliances to win over, but hopefully very intricate and involved plots you'll only find in soap operas. Relax. If they're durting the dishes they'll get caught eventually. It should only alert your attention-radars to administrate the surroundings, and not cause so much distess in your garden. Better continue planting chrysanthemums.
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