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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend was very romantic when we first got together. he used to send me loonggg text messages telling me how he felt about me and how he had really fallen for me and i loved it. as we got further along the line these messages died down, though he still sends them occassionally.the other night he was at my house and was on my laptop while i got ready to go out. when i got home his facebook was logged in and i know i shouldnt have but i took a peek as im nosy.i saw messages he had sent 3 of his past girlfriends and surprise surprise they were pretty much the same as what he used to send me.does this make his words meaningless? does he truly feel this way about me or is it just what he says to a girl to keep them happy? i love him, and when we spend time together its great, we get along really well and he does so much for me..but now im questioning if he really means any of it :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): Wouldn't let this worry you. There are only so many things we can say to our nearest and dearest so as they are all in the past, leave it alone. And think back - have you said things to him that you also said to others?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): You probably have used the same sex moves on him that you have used on someone else. Does it make them meaningless?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): I would let it go. Actions speak louder than words. If he is being the perfect boyfriend in every way, think no more about it. Past girlfriends are a minefield, don't even start to dissect his past relationship, it's madness. Words are just words and maybe he has got a limited line in compliments.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 When something works for you, you are going to keep using it.
Doesn't mean he isn't being honest and loving. Just mean that he likes the "tried & true" method. I do think many people get "stuck" using the same phrases and expressions and that they CAN lose their meaning, but there is a reason why "I LOVE YOU" has been used for centuries.
Now were these messages old or is he talking lovey dovey to them while being with you? If he is, then he needs a swift kick in the shin!
Let it go and for your own sanity, stop snooping.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 He means it. Just because he's said it before doesn't mean he can't feel the same things again you know.
Stop snooping, this is what you get from it. You just end up hurting yourself and rocking the boat. Don't ruin a nice relationship by picking holes in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): I know that I have been guilty of saying similar things to my current boyfriend that I have said to my ex's, yet I can guarantee you that I love my current boyfriend more than I loved either of my ex's. It doesn't mean that he doesn't mean what he says to you, it just shows that as humans we have limited vocabulary abilities, and that we tend to say the same kinds of things, it's hard to find new ways to say how we are feeling. Don't worry about it sweetie, I am sure he means what he has said to you, and if he is treating you in a way that back up those feelings, then you have nothing to worry about.Good Luck.
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