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writes:This may not sound as important but it is to me. I dated my former boyfriend for almost 7 months. All was well, especially the sex because he was well endowed. We broke up recently then i met someone else who is incredibly small. He's a great guy and I like him a lot but his size has become a problem to me. Him and I had sex once, it was great because his sexual prowess was amazing but I've been withholding sex ever since due to his size. I dont know what to do because I really do want to be with him, I'm just sexually active and would appreciate a bigger penis.
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reader, dr.2.be  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 In my opinion, some of the aunts need to stop beating up on the poster about how she really doesn't care for him because he has a smaller penis. People are entitled to have preferences, I don't think its shallow to be a size queen. I am one myself. I get better orgasms through penetration than through oral, and a bigger penis does satisfy me the best...im not going to lie. Perhaps the poster is the same way. Just like there are men who love women with bigger breasts, wide hips, curvy hourglass shape, skinny women, Big Beautiful Women, tight women, looser women, you name it, men pick and choose as well. We all do. Thats why we date, to find the person who we like the best emotionally, physically and mentally; who fits our puzzle. And there is nothing wrong with having physical preferences as we are all human. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he liked women who had has a butt and breasts C cup or larger. I bet there are many guys who don't find me attractive because I have narrow hips, small breasts and acne on my face. Its okay, they are just not a match for me, I don't think its shallow at all. There is someone out there who will think I am pretty.
Now for the poster, I would not tell the guy you are dating that you prefer larger penises. Since he is really good in bed and has great technique see if you guys can purchase some sex toys. Sex toys are awesome and can add some interest to your sex life. However, if oral sex isn't your thing and you really like the larger member because it tends to give you better orgasms, I may want to give him a chance to meet a woman who fits his puzzle piece. (ie one who is stimulated greatly by oral, and other clitoral technique as opposed to penetration. Which is most women) He may not be your match and its best to move on and find someone that satisfies you in all areas. There are plenty of men to choose from and you will eventually find someone that satisfies you in all areas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): DoubleM is right, clitoral orgasms and such are a good way for guys like him and your new boyfriend who are on the small end of the spectrum to get you the satisfaction you deserve from your sexual encounters despite them giving you the "short end of the stick."
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): be honest and let him no how you feel about his size ima guy and if you dont say nething n he finds out later he is gona b very hurt.i never had tat problem but i wouldnt want my g/f to not say anything
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reader, msmac +, writes (1 December 2009):
This sounds like this is all in your mind. You know what they say, it's not how big it is it is how they use it. If sex with him was great then let him know excatly what you want and if this is as big as issue as you think it is break it off before it goes to far and both of you get hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): If your guy can reach the end of your vagina with his penis, there is hope (or maybe that's not even necessary, given that a responsive woman only needs a finger to orgasm).
If you wish to improve things in a big way, you need to be responsive to dirty talk (takes high self esteem and the mindset that you deserve great pleasure, so you can let go enough), and he needs to talk dirty!
Try Googling the Sex God Method, and also the Deepspot Method to awaken things downstairs with a finger.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 December 2009):
 Some women are quite satisfied in relationships with clitoral orgasms, such as provided by oral and G-spot stimulation. Some others may enjoy that as well, but also desire the satisfying feeling they receive by having a good size erection filling their vagina during intercourse. Despite most other factors being quite compatible, the penis-size issue can be vital in some relationships, and such may the important thing for you to consider for the long-term.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): Im sorry if I offended any of you. I dont see it as a problem,i know bad choice of words. All i wanted was you to help me enjoy it better,by things such as positions that would suit the both of us. FYI I do care for him. The thing is,we just started seeing each other and I had never been with a smaller person. My former boyfriend broke my virginity so I dont have much experience when it comes to sizes,I wouldnt what size an average would be. I'm sincerely apologetic to those who took offence. I promise to appreciate him more, but not because you said I should. One of my other questions was whether or not size really does matter if he is good at what he does,but clearly not lol. Again,i apologize
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): Well you said the sex was great?
Listen, I don't doubt this man might be small, but you also recently came out of a relationship with a larger man. You are used to something different! Your vagina is used to something larger! Go without sex for a few months and you'll shrink back in. Of course, now you've already started a sexual relationship with a new man, so too late for that! Now, if you really want this man, don't tell him anything about your previous partner being big.
Focus on the other things that's great about the sex? And is this man small, or is he just smaller than your last boyfriend? If he's not small, just smaller, and is in fact a medium size, this can work out. You just gotta get used to him.
If it helps you any, I have something similar happen to me. My ex wasn't particularly big, but he was very curved. His penis was bent in quite a dramatic way. When I first started having sex with him I had to learn to adopt to his unique shape, but after a while I really started to love his penis because it could hit parts in me that no other penis did.
We ended the relationship, and now I have a new man. My new boyfriend is larger, but he's straight and not curved! It feels completely different, because even though he fills me out better, and I can work with this straight penis a lot better than the curved one, it feels so different in me. He doesn't hit the right spots in me, and I have been so used to really "feel" the curve, that with this straight penis I sometimes have problems feeling anything!
So the point is: the sex for me is great now too! I just have to get used to the new shape, lol, and work on other poses. I'd gotten used to some poses that worked with my last guy, but this new man and I need to find new poses that work for us! So do you, you need to find the ways that makes this new guy of yours bring you to places where your ex never could!
Also do not forget, that at the beginning of every relationship, you need to work to figure out each other and get to know each other. It takes time, and with time comes great sex. So don't give up on it!
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (30 November 2009):
 You should dump him so he can find a real woman. This will free you up to find some jackass with a big dick who will treat you like crap, since penis size is more important to you than character.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): This is STUPID ! It isnt his fault due 2 his size. if you liked him that much you wouldent be talking about this. i say you grow up and deal with it if not move on but that wil be soo pathetic trust me. After all nobodys perfect !
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 November 2009):
 Let him go find a woman who appreciates that he's a great guy with amazing sexual prowess; it doesn't sound like you are the one for him. And for heaven's sake, don't tell him why you need to break up with him. Just let him go gracefully and you can then continue in your quest.
Good luck.
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reader, Rosy  +, writes (30 November 2009):
it really doesnt matter bout the size of the car as long as the engine runs well! You say he is good but you dont want to heave sex with him?? If you care about him than you should show him but if the size too small maybe you dont care about him at all and should let him go to find someone who really cares for him regardless of size.
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