His past sex life has recently started bothering me!

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

It has recently started bothering me that my boyfriend of two years was with other women before me when I've only ever been with him. I don't know why I suddenly feel like this. I honestly didn't use to mind. It's not like I didn't know and I used to always think that an ideal boyfriend would have to have been with at least one other woman so that he had at least some idea as to what he is doing. I didn't want someone clueless when I was a virgin! But then the other day he said something about a place where he used to go get condoms about eight years ago. I worked it out and that would have made him about sixteen. I don't know why but that kind of shocked me. And then it started to really bother me. I was twenty and a half when I met my boyfriend and he's two years older than me. That means he's been having sex for at least six years more than me, approx. It's almost like I'm more jealous of my boyfriend than the other girls he was with. Is that normal? He's admitted to me that he never had a serious relationship until he met me and certainly had never called anyone else his 'girlfriend' before. For some reason the idea of it all is really getting under my skin and even when I try not to let them, my thoughts refer back to it.

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