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writes:ok...ive been seeing this guy since march and we're still not 'officialy' together. Partically the reason is because he's been screwed over by his mum who left him alone on the other side of the country by himself..then he met this girl who was his gf for a year..then she screwed him over literally by sleeping with another guy and falling pregnant.When he met me he said i was different and that for some reason he wanted to go on a date with me...different from what he was doing for the past few months after his break up. You know the usual sleeping with girls...no strings attatched.Now hes absolutely beautiful...we both really like eachother and have had deep talks last week about if he wanted a realtionship and he said.."i thought about being in one with you but then everytime i think im ready i talk myself out of it because i dont wanna get hurt." i am very supportive of him and reassure him that im not like that and im not the kind of girl who wants power and watns a guy under the thumb! And he said that he knows that..anyway back to the story...i'm giving him time and i have a really strong feeling that we'll stay together because we do a lot together already...things with my family and friends etc..but since the last talk we've had hes gone a little funny and when he messages its just short and simple noo....hey sweet cheeks..sexy girl...sweet heart nothing!...i know its cause he's being cautious and hes said he really likes me...but what do i do??? im waiting and dont wanna pressure him but i keep giving but i dont receive...and if i get anything from him its not much!! my feelings are strong and his are too but he puts a block inbetween his feelings because he's scared...i just need advice from any other people who have been involved in anything similar...or anyone as to what i should do?? i will wait..and i will support...but give it another month or so and il probably break down! :( thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys!! i think soon we will have another chat and i'm gonna tell him exactly how feel...that it does hurt that we're not exactly together even though we practically are. I'll wait but if he hasn't made his mind up then i'll tell him again that i can't go on waiting till he is ready because it hurts so i'd rather just end it..maybe he'll realise that shit i do miss her cause we're always talking and doing stuff..either way im gonna be positive :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Wow! It is funny how people say others are in the same situtation as you! Well, I am in the same boat, but not as long as you. The person I am dating wants to take it slow as well. I know it can be hard to listen to others comments of he doesn't want to be with you, he's not that into and you deserve better. Well, maybe we do, or maybe we like what we have, and they do, but they can't see it. I love to tell you what to do, but I don't even know what to do. But, it is always nice to know there are others going through the same thing, and also sticking out as long as they can. I am with you on still giving it time, and close to the end I will just say, I want to be with you, but if you can't be with me then I think it is best we split now so I have less hurt, because the longer it goes the more hurt you will be. I hope it works out and he makes the right decision. But all I can tell you is to do what is in your heart and not what others tell you do, even though the comments hurt and make you think!
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reader, RawrrJoJoBabii  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 I think that what you should do is let him know exactly how you feel. Have a talk with him and tell him you're aware of his past and how he doesn't want to get hurt. Tell him that you are willing to wait until he's ready but that it hurts you not actually being in a relationship with him. Basically tell him how much you care because it will go a long way in his mind.
Also, try your hardest to make him more comfortable around you and try building more of a relationship status between you guys.
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