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writes:I need to get peoples view on whether I'm over reacting or not. My little girls dad's girlfriend recently posted a load of photos of the three of them together on facebook and has even referred to my daughter on facebook as "Our little princess". I have always got on with my ex boyfriend. We broke up and still lived together for nearly a year, that's how well we got on, but he says its just a few pictures. There is easily over 20! I don't even post pictures of her on my page because if people want to see my daughter they can come over. I can't tell her dad what to do so he does put pictures on all the time but he is her dad, this women has only been with my ex 5-6 months! The photos are still there, and even when I sent her a message telling her to remove them, she just didn't reply! Even if she had asked, she isn't anything to do with my girl and how dare she put things like that online for anyone to see! I'm barely speaking to her dad because of it, he thinks I'm just overreacting! Am I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2015): You are not overreacting. Your daughter should be protected online. This girlfriend has different privacy settings and friends and friends of friends you don't know. If this is what she does without your consent on Facebook I would be worried about how much she is gonna respect you ever. You have good advice on here. Saying "our little Princess" is wrong too. She is overstepping boundaries playing mummy. You may want to contact citizens advice it's free and there might be ways to issue a formal demand regarding online images other than via Facebook. A kind of catch all legal document. Your ex needs to man up too. You're the mother not his girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2015): ive got to agree. i recently saw videos of my daughter on tv and i had to wonder who in hell saw fit to sell videos of her to an agency or video company without my knowledge,and having thought hard i narrowed it down to two known possibilities.My daughter is older now , so juvenile laws no longer apply , but that, coupled with the fact that she has vanished out of my life for over seven years hardly makes me feel empowered.So your issue is empowerement and the fact that someone is by passing your judgement and you want to protect your child from public viewing.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (27 May 2015):
 If you are the legal guardian of your daughter and she is under 13, you have recourse, and pretty swift recourse. Here's where you go:
https://www.facebook.com/help/428478523862899
Honeypie is half right in that this sounds more like your grudge with your ex than the issue itself, and the "our little princess" comment would have me upset.
The person you speak to is the owner of the Facebook account, and it sounds like it's her. You already sent the email, so you have written request and demand with the committer or the privacy violation.
Go to the link and now work with Facebook. No matter if you post 1000+ pictures of your daughter, no one else has the right to do it unauthorized, and it's a serious issue with Facebook.
Don't talk to her or him anymore. You don't want to deal with this on the other side of a BLOCKED account on her part, because this one sounds like a spite-bomb.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 May 2015):
 I wouldn't contact her directly, I would contact the FATHER. One thing is that HE has pictures up (he has a right as the Dad) SHE on the other hand does not.
So while your BF might not see the big deal, YOU obviously do.
Go through HIM. NOT her.
If he can't MAKE her remove them, contact Facebook.
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