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writes:I have this friend, she reappeared out of nowhere, after I lived abroad for 4 years. She has lots and lots of problems, her girlfriend had gone travelling and she had an uncle pass away. It was strange she kept reaching out to me, it made me feel like she hadn't developed any other friends she felt comfortable with in over 3 years. She always doesnt have enough money, but always seems to be free to hang out. Invariably she avoids paying for things and then randomly will take holidays. I asked her for a favour: to take my portrait because she is a photographer. I've asked a few times and she's promised but she never delivers, or avoids responding, only to reappear as if nothing has been asked of her. I explain to her it is not surprising she is always out of money, and she hardly ever works. More often she will be roller blading in the park. I'm a bit fed up with her, I asked for this one favour, and she said she wanted to do if properly, but yet I need it done soon, so I can use the portrait for journalistic articles. What do I do about her, I honestly could ditch her easily, and move on. But she seems to hell bent on having a friendship which work around her schedule and doesn't take my own into consideration.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 May 2015):
 If you want a professional photo, hire a professional. Your friend obviously is not in that category.
You know her by now, if you don't want to pay the tab for hanging out with her, either leave early or don't hang out.
How exactly is she hell-bent on maintaining this friendship? That's no lt clear here.
Just let the friendship wither by neglecting it. You don't sound like you like her all that much...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 May 2015):
 Is there ANY good reason to keep her around as a friend?
If you can't answer yes to that, I'd ditch her. It's that simple. Some people are more of a DRAIN (emotionally, financially and physically) then they are adding to your life.
And I would NOT be asking someone as FLAKY as her to snap a picture, You'd be better off with a selfie, because? That can be done in 5 seconds!
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