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*ountonme
writes:What should I do if my old best friend who I had a massive crush on, now has a new girlfriend? Our 'breakup' was pretty messy and his girlfriend hates me as does all his friends and her friends. I try to be nice but that is me 'trying to be her friend' and when I act mean 'I'm being a bitch for no reason' and I can't just ignore her as I sit next to her in a lesson. I don't know what to do as I have done nothing to make her hate me and I'm so confused on what to do.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (8 July 2016):
 My ex did this, my ex said that ! Young or old the "EX" doesn't always paint a fair or accurate picture to the new gf or bf. Otherwise if it was all hunky dory wouldn't' they still me together?Bad mouthing an ex can make a new partner feel more secure in a relationship knowing that they are better, nicer, prettier,smarter etc than the ex. She can think what she likes and will do anyway. You don't have to be friends with her and why would you want to be friends with someone who forms an opinion of you based on what others say instead of giving you a fair go anyway. You can be civil when it is needed but I would not go out of your way for any of them. Time to move on and run in new circles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2016): You say all of his friends and his new girlfriend all hate you? Sweetheart, that is because he is saying bad things about you. You should avoid being in contact with people who don't like you. It would only hurt your feelings and lower your self-esteem.
She's not really going to like any girl he used to like or still likes; perhaps out of jealousy.
Even if you were not so nice, it is unfair to turn people against you that you've done nothing to.
Turn your attention to your own friends, and make more new ones.
When you can't get along with people for any reason, make your peace by just being polite when you're forced to share a small space with them; but keep a safe distance when it would be easier to just choose another route to travel.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 July 2016):
 Just be polite, you don't have to try and be her best buddy. If she is rude to you, ignore her - just don't be mean. WHO cares?
And yes, you CAN ignore her if you want to. People do it all the time. But if you want to show that there are no hard feelings from your end, just BE polite, but don't try to hard to be her "friend".
My guess is his new GF "hates" you because your ex have told her all kind of crazy crap about you, so don't be mad at her for that.. But really, let it go. Ignore them both. Enjoy and hang out with YOUR friends, they can do the same.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 July 2016):
 You're at an age where jealousy plays a massive part in drama. You're a threat because you had/have a massive crush on her boyfriend. It's all playground stuff, so I'd find new friends and let go of this stuff.
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