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writes: For about five years I've had 3 best friends- a girl and two boys. We are all really close and spend a lot of time together. We've had girlfriends and boyfriends in the past but now one of my best friends, one of the boys, has a girlfriend. Normally we get on with his girlfriends, but we don't like his new one. She is really bitchy and stuck up but is ever so sneaky about it. She'll be nasty and patronising when our friend isn't there but whenever he is there she is as sweet as can be. So our friend doesn't seem to believe us whenever we tell him what she is really like. It's like this girl is poisoning his mind. He seems so distant from us. I don't want this girl to ruin our friendship which has been strong for so many years. What should we do?!
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 The more you try convincing your friend that his girlfriend is not nice the more he'll distance himself from you.
He has choosen to be with her and as much as you may not like her, he obviously does.
Let it go and I'm sure if she's as two faced as you say she is it will not take him long to find out for himself.
She may feel threatened that he has close female friends, try to make her feel more welcome within the group, if you don't she will more than likely start to say she doesn't want to go out with him if his mates are going to be around, (cos they don't like her) and then he may find himself in a position where he has to choose, and you may lose a good friend.
Let him get on with his girlfriend and hope that the relationship fizzles out once he sees for himself what she's like. He has to be allowed to make up his own mind though, without feeling pressure from his friends to dump her.
Best of luck.
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reader, Floppy +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Hello,My opinion to this problem is that you should try to explain how this girl is being towards you, if it doesn't get through to him. If this doesn't work, try recording this girl using your mobile phones and showing it to your friend. This may seem sneaky, but it will help you make your friend see the truth about this girl. This is the only option i could suggest that you have left. If you want to keep your friendship with this guy, then be sneaky and record her when she is being patonising. Good luck!
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