A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 14 months needs a break. His sister has been in the hospital and needing constant attention for 4 months after a surgery that went very wrong, and his father just passed away. He has a very demanding job and isn't in the best of health right now, due to his lack of time to focus on himself.He told me I am the best thing that has happened to him, the I am a classy lady and one of the best people he's ever known, but that we need to take a break for now because he can't focus on himself right now.This all came to a head when I was hospitalized for pneumonia and felt neglected even though this dad died the same day that I was admitted. He still came to see me and I went to the service for his dad. I feel that he is the man for me but this break is going to be hard for me. I think he truly needs a break, just some time to not have to worry about me, but it feels like a break up. He will use the out of sight out of mind thing which is the only way he can do this because talking to me makes him miss me terribly. Me, on the other hand wants to at least talk to him and know what is going on.Do you think that this is a break up or a break? He promised he would call me soon.My friends really think he is at his breaking point and just needs some time to breathe. They feel that this wont be a long term thing as he really does care about me - love me.Thanks for letting me air my dirty laundry and for your forthcoming advice.
View related questions:
a break Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, busy04 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 I believe that it's just a breathing period for him. He seems to really love & care for you, but so much has happened that he just needs to relax a little, which happens sometimes. So let him do that, call him every once a week or so to check on him, just make sure to give him that space and he's said that he's going to call you so let him do that also. Even though it's a little rough for you, support him let him feel like you have his back in this, that it'll make even better for him & you. Because he'll appreciate your support & understanding. It'll work out, and this could even be a good time for you to relax & do some things for yourself right now, think of it as him going on a little vacation...he'll be back soon:)
And remember: It sometimes takes separation, to bring appreciation! Think of the fun you'll have together when this little "break" is over :)
Wish you the best!
|
