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writes:Hi, I had the weirdest experience with my boyfriend tonight. We were collecting our scholarships and it was the first time my parents had met his. We hadnt seen each other for a week and he had been more distant than normal e.g texting me less, not calling etc. I didnt really mind this as I know he had had a really busy week and was really tired. Anyway at this scholarship thing he was really distant and unusually quiet - his parents were too. He seemed like he was really upset about something or had something pressing on his mind. Being a typical girl I asked him about this straight away with the reply of 'nothings wrong' - so maybe he was just tired. Whats stranger, after we recieved our awards we went out without our parents - he seemed willing to do this and for about an hour our relationship was virtually at breaking point. I felt really upset and was admittedly slightly offish with him. Then we went and had something to eat and during the meal his mood changed really suddenly and he was his charming old self again - really loving and affectionate. I dont know why this was, when I asked him he said it was because he was with me. He says hes obsessed with me and really loves me and I know his intentions are good and hes not some crazy guy. We're only 16 and I dont understand his mood and why he suddenly changed its really puzzling me. Being so young i really need help in understanding whats going on with him. Thanks.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (27 October 2006):
 He might be under lots of pressure from his parents as well. I know in High School some parents don't condone relationships because they feel it may affect school work... He may have had to act standoffish and just got caught up in the mood of it all. The male psyche is strange so you can never know
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for your help, your both probably right. But it was so out of character for him and such a big mood change in the restaurant from being really bad to really good. Do you think he was pretending to be happy just to please me? Although Im not sure its possible to 'pretend' to be the way he was, however you feel its hard enough to put on a brave face and I think its even worse if your a 16 year old boy. Im still really confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): Hi well my Boyfriend can be the same somtimes,
It is hard to figure them out!, it could be that pressures at school/College on him at the moment but it is quite worrie thats hes obsessed with you, I'm sure its no harm really and his intentions sound honerable like you say,but he sounds like he is being insecure at the moment but he's is only 16 so he is bound to be!
Try not to react to his change of mood, I know its hard but if he realises he cant get a reaction from you he will stop acting weird Girls do nag there fellas it makes them not listen if you do it too much!so try not to ask him whats up?too much,ask him him once and if he typiclly says "nothing" dont press him on the issue,you need not live on the edge just enjoy his company,
and have fun with him for now and try not to let the relationship get too heavy until you want to
go at your pace obsessed or not!its an equal parnership remember that and try not to worry!
good luck :)
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reader, kellyO +, writes (27 October 2006):
 Hi,
I think it becomes clear from your posting that he wants to be with u alone. you did indicate that u spent one week apart. He made it clear to you why he acted this way by saying that he is obsessed with u. I guess this implies he wanted to spend the night with u and with the presence of both parents he felt he wasnt.
Take the time to enjoy your relationship, dont worry too much .
Goodluck dear
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