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writes:Hi! okay well me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years now and I am in love with him. I have had many boyfriends before and have experienced a lot and so has he. I feel that he has every quality that I am looking for in a guy and he is the one for me and he feels the same way. But his mom has been telling him that he should breakup with me and meet new people because I'm not the right one for him. We are both in our sophomore year of college and we go to different colleges, so we do meet new people and do our own things, but we still feel that we want to be with each other. I don't know what we should do because we are a happy couple. Do you think its to early to decide that we want to be together forever? Or do you think we should do what his mom said, and breakup and meet new people? Reply to this Question
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Honestly I cannot help but wonder how at your age, after having been in a relationship for three years how you have had many boyfriends before, and experienced a lot?I don't mean to be rude or condescending but I can't imagine the boyfriends you had before 18 or 15 (depending on what your actual age is) were really the kind of relationships that set you up for an adult, life long commitment.With that said, you shouldn't break up just because his Mother said so. I'm sure it's nothing personal against you, she just wants her son to test every avenue and know that when he settles down it's because he knows what else is out there, and wants what he has anyway.His mother isn't in the relationship, so ignore her and go with what you both want.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 July 2009):
I think you two should do whatever you feel is right. If you two are in love and don't want to break up, then you shouldn't. If it was a bad relationship, then yes.
But I'm just telling you now, no you haven't experienced a lot in the past. You can argue with me about it, but I thought I had experienced a lot 5 years ago, but nope. I have friends several years younger than me that thought they experienced a lot, but now they're ending their relationships because they feel that they need to experience more. Sometimes I feel like I'm just starting. I'm experiencing A LOT of new things all the time. A lot to do with life, etc., especially from being single as well as dating other people. His mom probably doesn't want his life to pass him by and later on have regrets. She has a point, but it's not her relationship and she should probably keep her opinions to herself.
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