His love for his mistress ruined our marriage!

A female age 51-59, *urting37 writes:

Hi guys I am 37 years and have been married with my husband for 14 years. About 3 years ago he cheated on me with another woman and the relationship lasted a long time because of his drinking and drug abuse. He left me in 2009 to move in with her and they only lasted for 5 months until she put him in jail for domestic violence and rape. During his relationship with her he kept coming back to me for sex and to tell me he missed and loved me. So in July of 2009 he was in jail and I took him out. Sometimes he never works and doesn't worry about any bills. Well we got back together and tried it but I could never forget what he did to me that woman would torment me and by texting and calling me when they were having sex. Telling me how she did it better than me. He would play with my feelings come back and forth cause I let him. I would always remind him of what he did never let it go we use to drink together and then fight. Now after 1 year and 2 months we got in to a fight because we went out dancing and he was flirting with the bartender and then I told him you need to stop you need to respect me. Well then we left and he started call me names like pig and he wouldn't be looking at other woman if I would do something about it you pig. Well then I threw him out he came back that morning and I started throwing things at him and now I know and realize violence is not the solution. So he moves out moves in with his uncle and I find out he has been calling his mistress again who put him in jail. He told me he wasn't coming back home because we would never make it and that we have tried to many times. He even said it had nothing to do with another woman. Then on this past Monday the 20th I found him at Dennys have breakfast and I asked him who you having breakfast and he like with Nora and he is like don't cause a scene cause in the past I caused a scene beat her up and all the wrong things.. Of course I didn't and walked out and then I walked back in and told him so this is the reason why you don't want to try and work our things out. He said no... He then called me on my cell phone to tell me that there was nothing going on but that he needed to tell me the truth that he tried to forget her in the year and two months he was with me but could never. Of course I started crying and he was like I am sorry but I don't know when it happen I fell in love with her. I kept crying got so upset and now I feel like I am going crazy but I know deep down that us being together will never happen again. I have 2 children a girl 13yrs and son 10yr which I told him he had to tell his kids. I am so heart broken after everything I did for him take care of him and take him out of jail help him out in everything and he tells me this.. When he moved in with her I was getting use to it and getting over I went to psychiatrist and got counseling and went to a divorce group. We both filed for divorce and then cancelled it and now I am in the same boat at last time.

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