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writes:I have a problem and I am confused.I am 27 and a virgin. I had always stopped myself from having sex till I was 22yo. Coz i thought it would affect my studies in school and college.I started viewing porn in college and was really deep into porn, spending full days in it, keeping a boner for hours. I thought I would do so much good in bed.Then after college, 2yrs went by, i turned 24, met my fiancee (friend then), we started going out, now it has been more than 3yrs, we are getting married, we are both are virgins, we go to bed together, she gives me a handjob/blow job, but I have lost the urge to have sex, and I guess since we have nt experienced it yet, there is no urge.But its extremely strange to me, that when I was in porn, i masturbated a lot, and now, i dont have the urge.My penis size is decent 14cms, my gf is beautiful, has a great body, im also attractive, I am totally confused. There is one more thing, she has never shown interest in sex, and if i make a move/foreplay, she says it hurts her vagina.I want to the same old craving for sex, as i used tom when I viewed porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Save it for wedding day. The high of the day should make you want sex with her. You could also try spanish fly etc. to help you both get more in the mood. I don't think you should rush into sex before wedding day. Focus on long passionate kisses on your wedding night - slowly but surely run your hands over her body, play with her hair and perhaps stop to kiss her neck. When she starts to get turned on and wet, she will likely crave your penis and touch it. If you aren't in the mood for sex by then you are probably gay and made a big mistake with marriage.I think you have just learnt self-control and respect for your gf. You shouldn't be worried about losing the cravings, it will come back naturally. It is the anxiety which is causing you most problems. You must accept there is nothing wrong with you - you said it yourself your gf has no desire for sex (pre-marriage I assume), you have cloned her wishes and respected them, you seem to be a fantastic couple. I think as soon as she comes on strong to you wanting sex with you on the wedding night, this "problem" will be a long distant memory. Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 I am sure you have just got bored of waiting to have sex and that is why you have lost all interest you need to spice things up big time before it is to late. Have a romantic night in take things slowely and have plenty of foreplay and massaging. Use a condom with plenty of lube and start off gently, this may take a few times to get the hang of it but hopefully after a while you'se will get used to it and be happy.
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