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writes:I am so annoyed and upset with my bfs little sister. She has really annoyed me because their other brother has a fiancé and his sister has her head up her effing arse! She wrote on her facebook wall. "Beth we should go on holiday. Would be soo cool xxx". And I saw and read all the comments and it really upset me. Cos she never talks to me and I have tried to take her into town to go shopping and took her out with my cousin but she is still funny with me. I don't even know what to do. I don't go to his house cos I don't wanna see her she is annoying. Me and my boyfriend are going on holiday in September our first holiday abroad and she has the cheek to say "can you take me?" and my bf obviously said no and then she said "well youre taking your gf why can't you take me". :s confusing! Yeah cos we want his sister to come on our holiday! I'm at my wits end with it And I dont know what to do. Please can someone help me with this situation please :( Thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): By the sounds of it you have the problem. I don't like everyone in my boyfriends family, but I respect him so I make the effort to tolerate those I don't like, because I love him, and they are his family and he loves them. Try putting your focus on how this must be making him feel and how he may be getting hurt on your obvious dislike of his little sister. She is young and is finding herself, and she can probably pick up on how annoyed you are with her, and if you and your boyfriend get married in the future it may cause uneasiness in his family with you, and you will be the one who is seen as being the cause, as blood is thicker than water. Just try to think how torn he must feel, if you love him isn't that the least you should do for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): I'm struggling to see what his little sister is doing wrong? From what you've said, its you with the problem not her. Little sisters are cheeky and will push their luck, by asking your boyfriend to take her away with you she was just testing the water to see what she could get away with. That what younger siblings do.As for not connecting with you, how can she when you make it so clear how annoyed you are with her. Your meant to be the grown up one here. Take some pressure off your boyfriend and stop having a go at her. She is still young and naïve, also no doubt hormonal. At that age they liked to pick and choose who they like, who they bond with and who they feel comfortable with. In this case it is obviously your boyfriends sister in law to be.All you can do is step back and hope that slowly you will get to know her some more, because let's face it if you were to one day get married and have babies with your boyfriend you couldn't keep up this attitude with this sister and expect him not to resent you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did like her then she went really funny with me and we have been together for 2 and a half years and their brother and his fiancée have been together for 3 years so it's not much different. It's just really annoying and in my face kinda :/
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (13 July 2011):
 from what you write it seems as though you don't like the girl so she may be picking up on this and that is why she is not so drawn to you as she is with the other brother's GF? plus, if the other GF has been part of their family longer than you have, the little sister has grown to know her better over time and hence feels more easy in her company than yours.
there will always be certain people that we feel better around than others, we can't like and get on with EVERYBODY, that's just a life-fact, you don't need to feel annoyed about it. just carry on being friendly and she may come round eventually. being angry and resentful will ensure that she will never want to make a friend of you
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