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anonymous
writes:When i was 14 i lost my virginity to my cousin who was 15 2years ago. . .i moved on and it never bothered me, 6months later i met this guy who i thought meant the world to me and i really enjoyed being with him, i trusted him too, when it came that we wanted to take things to the next level(having sex) i told him i was virgin because i was scared he might leave me and he was a virgin too and i didn't want to lose him by telling him who i lost it to, we had sex and he never noticed that i wasn't a virgin but i knew he doubt. . .anyway a year later i finally told him because i felt i could clearly trust him, i told him and he was mad and heartbroken but since that day i told him he got very abusive and he would get angry for anything i do wrong and where i was going and then if i wanted to leave him he would threaten me to tell my parents what i did and he threatens that he would make my life hell at school and that he would tell everybody what i did. . .i'm still with him and i really hate him, he still abuses me and i'm only with him because he knows my secret and i want to leave because i don't love him anymore since the day he layed his hands on me, i really trusted him and wanted a future with him but all that faded away that moment he got physical with me. . .i really need help i want him to leave me alone and i don't want my parents to find out what i did, i'm very depressed since then i know i made a huge mistake and i regret it up to this day
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reader, Forge  +, writes (1 July 2014):
 I might be replying to a week old question, but I still will give my input.
This guy is trash of the worst type. He's the type of trash that I would purposely dig out all the rest, just to put him on the bottom.
You need to tell an adult that he's being abusive.
Based on what I read, although I could be reading wrong, he isn't physically abusing you. Correct me if I'm wrong. But emotional abuse is much worse. You really need to tell a responsible adult, maybe even HIS parents.
Go to the police. Abuse is a federal offense, and he can be arrested for it.
He's blackmailing you, and if you leave him he'll tell everyone. The power of denial is strong, but should never be abused. If someone you know finds out, or if anyone for that matter, you need to deny it.
Although not extensively. No excuses, such as "oh he misunderstood" or something similar. Just "no he's lying."
Change this. Get ahead of the storm, and please tell somebody. This is only going to become MUCH worse if you don't.
"Do not let higher power control your actions. It is cowardly of them."
-Forge-
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2014): Leave him and then if he tells anyone that you had sex with your cousin tell them that he is lying and that he is just mad at you for breaking up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2014): Is your cousin also content denying everything? If so, talk to your parents and tell them this boy is abusing you and is saying horrible things about you. You HAVE to leave him before you end up with lasting damage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2014): Please please leave him asap. Cut all contact and if he harasses u then go to the police. Ur parents will support u. Let the headmaster at school know what he's been doing 2 u also. If it were me and he told everyone I'd slept with my cousin I'd just deny it. Please get away from him and change ur phone no xx
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