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writes:well im 17 and i've been in a relationship w/ my boyfriend for 2 years now and he's still insecure..i don't know what to do.I love him and i want to spend the rest of my life with him..but i feel like i can't have any friends casue he's insecure..i think it came from his parents cause there like that to..help me..what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help but ive tried just about everything..i know what i have to do..we need a break but i don't know if i can do that..he's the only one that makes everything worth wild..if we broke up i'll be more then heart broken i'll be completely and totally destroyed
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reader, AW355484  +, writes (3 July 2009):
Just tell him you love him, and wouldn't hurt him. If you go out without him, send a txt or a quick ring will just let him know he has nothing to worry about.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2009):
 He has to take charge of his own insecurity. You should never live your life without friends because he can't handle it. That is a very limited and depressing way to live. Everybody needs friends!
Sit him down and talk about it. Reassure him that you love him very much, and you want this to work out between you. Then tell him he has to find a way to deal with his insecurity because it's hurting your relationship. Encourage him to check out some books on the topic or talk to a trusted friend/family member/adult. Just remember this is his problem to deal with, and not yours. You can encourage him and support him in dealing with this but he has to take the actual steps to cure it.
Good luck.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 If you feel cut off from your friends and argue about things that relate to jelousy or being possessive then you need to find another person to love who trusts you and wants you to have as many friends as you want.
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reader, J1E1S1U1S +, writes (3 July 2009):
Well have you done anything yourself for him to be insecure about the relationship? have you talked to him about it? If you have talked to him about it then there are a couple of things you can do. You can show him he has nothing too worry about. like if a guy tries to flirt with you just give them the cold shoulder or you can make him feel really really wanted. Just act like you want him really bad and try to show as much love as possible it will make him feel like he is the only guy you are looking for
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