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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months and everything is perfect.....except his friends. His friends don't like me because they think he's different when he's with me. But my boyfriend is the one who always wants to be with me and we really really like each other. we dont know what to do because his friends bug him about breaking up with me almost everyday. I've been nothing but nice to them. What do we do about it? we want to stay together but its putting too much stress on our relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (30 October 2010):
 I know what to do! Here's a little "STRENGTHENING~EXERCISE" That works to build up a MAN'S COURAGE,(Other than going to see the Wizard up in OZ) Now, This might take several weeks, before he's stand-up to his friends, so...don't rush him. Here goes: Every time he want sex you say to him "Who you want if from? "Me or Your friends?" And every time, He will choose YOU! And then he'll get Stronger and Stronger..As the days go by...Then when his FRIENDS say MAN get rid of HER he'll won't THINK twice!!! About "WHO'S" going to go! Trust me!! This works! No watered Advice Here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYa, you're right. i just wish it could have worked out cause its hard to spend half a year with someone and then just have them leave after so much. We'll see how it goes. it's just really ridiculous this whole thing.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 October 2010):
 I'm sorry to hear but that's really silly he let his friends dictate who he goes out with. Rather shows what a sheep he is. You need a guy who is mature, and who doesn't let his friends get in the way of your relationship..but still has easy going friends that accept you and are polite, courteous. So hhmph, on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe broke up today. :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Well, we'll see if it works. This is actually a very passive way to go about solving the problem. I'd say being more upfront with his friends would be more effective, but to each his own, I guess.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate: we thought of a plan. And we "broke up"
which means we told all his friends we broke up so they can get off his back and so when they hang out my boyfriend can show how miserable he is and stuff like that. And we were planning on "getting back together" on monday and maybe they'll stop.
Idk if this is a good idea. but 1. its not my choice 2. i cant do anything about it 3. i guess i just have to trust him.
but in the meanwhile im getting so paranoid and making my self sick over it. Im just worried.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
well split hallway time in half..you gotta show these guys you're not here to take away their friend..to where he starts to lose his friends. That's understandable. It happens in some couples..In fact, let these guys know you're not here to take their friend away, that all you are is just a new part of his life. And there's plenty of him to go around. I'm not saying kiss their bum and try to be buddy buddy with them. Just let them know you're not one of those clingy chicks..and it's completely healthy for him to have his nights and hallway time with friends. You can even join in hallway time with his friends. Once they get more time with your boyfriend..then their tune will change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks girls. That really did help. And we did talk about it and he says he's going to have a serious talk with all of them and try to get them to understand. And if they don't then we have another plan. This is just ridiculous for his friends to treat him like that. Another question tho...they don't just want him on the weekends...but also in the halls and they think im too time consuming! What does he say to them about that? why are they doing all of this?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
It's normal for his buddies to feel threatened by you. They think they're not going to see enough of him because you're in the picture. Compromise baby..
As jmc930 stated, it's up to him to talk to his friends. He needs to let them know that just because he has a girlfriend doesn't mean they're not going to see him. Just means they have to share..In fact propose the idea of a guys night once or twice a night during the week. That way he gets the best of both worlds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Sweetie~A true friend would not displace his personal opinion upon you..so perhaps you should consider telling the such person as descructive to your well being and kindly dismiss them. You know, I've dealt with individuals of such sort, and everytime the underlying behavior was because they wanted to be my partner whereas I didn't...SO, I confronted them about their behavior, asked them to discontinue it, and when they didn't I kindly asked them to distance themselves from me..This worked for all except two, both of whom I have restraining orders against. ~Remember it's you who breathes your life, okay?~
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): You don't need to do anything in this situation, but your boyfriend does. He needs to tell his friends to lay off because he likes you and wants to be a better person because of you. If they can't accept his choice to be with you, who he cares about, who makes him happy, then they aren't very good friends.
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